Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (Capricorn1229) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:36:51 GMT

I never go back. Once we have fucked and the shit gets awkward a I just can't hook up again. I always see it like this...if I am sleeping with a dude outside of a relationship that's all they will ever be is a fuck buddy and once I lose interest I won't go back or even consider them as a boyfriend. I may of liked them at first but usually there is some cue to me subconsciously that always lets me know nothing can come of this so I have my non attached fun. There is no point to...

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (VelvetRope11) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:27:59 GMT

These guys know I don't know who they are simply because I just don't. lol Most guys catch on that I'm confident and ballsy enough that if I was hurt or angry due to them, they'd already know it.

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (SingJCyouMakeMeShiver) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:26:22 GMT

Ummm no? Not at all. Wonder who you're mistaking me with.

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (taniaoakley) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:26:07 GMT

Nope, men don't analyse that hard. If you don't have their number, they will just think that they're not that important to you unless it's the day after a big fight or something.

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (celebtrashwhore) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:25:20 GMT

Arent you married with kids?

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feeds@yuku.com (SingJCyouMakeMeShiver) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:23:29 GMT

I dunno, I think the "who is this?" text can communicate the opposite message. If you OBVIOUSLY have history with somebody, they're not gonna get it and think, "welp! she doesn't remember my name!" They're going to think, "Aw that's cute, I affected her so much that she even removed me from her phone, so she wouldn't slip and call me.."
I think not deleting pictures and keeping numbers, etc. more so communicates a message of sanity and...

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feeds@yuku.com (ImCuterThanYou) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:23:26 GMT

I keep the numbers so I know to not answer

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feeds@yuku.com (VelvetRope11) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:21:36 GMT

Eh, the guys who get deleted are the guys who are really just after fuckery (not just fucking haha). I'm almost 23, I've had my share of fuckery and am trying to avoid it...so no big loss to either of us.

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (ImCuterThanYou) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:18:35 GMT

I have an ex boyfriend who really got to the point where he just wanted me around so he could sleep with me... after I met the guy I've been dating I realized what a jerk he was and how much better I off I was with someone who valued me (he never did) so it was a lot easier for me to just be a raging bitch to him when I talked to him. Even know he doesn't get it that I have no interest in being with him, he still thinks I'm like head over heels in love with him, and frankly,...

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (SingJCyouMakeMeShiver) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:16:55 GMT

VelvetRope11 wrote:
They do it because they're guys and want sex. lol Nothing more. This is all why I adopted a cell phone policy of:

Unless you're a good guy friend already or a number I need for networking purposes, if you don't make effort to contact me with in two weeks (of me last contacting you) you get deleted.

It really deflates their ego to the get "Who is this?" text...

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (AudaciousAudrey) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:15:55 GMT

SingJCyouMakeMeShiver wrote:
Now that I think about it, every guy I've ever dated/hooked up with came back around too. Usually in a span of YEARS rather than months, but they did poke their head back in again. But it was always so late that I wasn't interested anymore. Ironic! I wonder why guys do that, and why girls usually won't have it.

Because they think it will be easier to hook up with...

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (VelvetRope11) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:14:24 GMT

They do it because they're guys and want sex. lol Nothing more. This is all why I adopted a cell phone policy of:

Unless you're a good guy friend already or a number I need for networking purposes, if you don't make effort to contact me with in two weeks (of me last contacting you) you get deleted.

It really deflates their ego to the get "Who is this?" text I have found.

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (SingJCyouMakeMeShiver) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:13:46 GMT

ImCuterThanYou wrote:
Stand your ground. Don't let something you want get in the way of what you deserve.

Thanks. I seriously will. I feel very strong; much stronger than I did when I was allowing him to just fuck me. I don't think I would allow anyone that privilege at this point. Something to do with realizing the importance of respect

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feeds@yuku.com (taniaoakley) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:11:10 GMT

My old f-buddy from a long time ago now lives with me... so it does happen.

But if this is the same guy you've been talking about for the last year who slept with you, went back to his girlfriend and fuckery ensued... I think you should LET IT GO.

He's not interested.

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (SingJCyouMakeMeShiver) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:10:13 GMT

Now that I think about it, every guy I've ever dated/hooked up with came back around too. Usually in a span of YEARS rather than months, but they did poke their head back in again. But it was always so late that I wasn't interested anymore. Ironic! I wonder why guys do that, and why girls usually won't have it.

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (ImCuterThanYou) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:09:03 GMT

I'd pretty much not speak to him unless he wants to date you. It seems like you obviously are interested in dating him, and if the feeling is not mutual than you're just going to get hurt. Stand your ground. Don't let something you want get in the way of what you deserve.

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (VelvetRope11) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:07:01 GMT

Every guy I've dated/had sex with has tried to come back around. The formula is usually the same, they miss me, they start flirting, drop a few lines about sex.

I'm usually nice and friendly, don't mind sharing a few drinks/talking, but I never go back to having sex with them. It's over and done with.

Re: Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (AudaciousAudrey) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:05:15 GMT

rachaelhatesbees wrote:
He tried to come back around, but I had started dating someone.

Basically I think in your situation you have two options: be upfront with him and tell him what you're looking for, or wait it out and see if he's interested. I bet that he'll never think of you as anything more than a fuck buddy though... sorry to say that, but I think...

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feeds@yuku.com (SingJCyouMakeMeShiver) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:03:34 GMT

So far I'm going with option 2, because it's a) passive/safe; b) time is the only way I can be seen as a human and not a fuckperson

There is progress, (slow, mainly because we see each other like once a month). But I almost wish I didn't see any sort of improvement or progress, because then I could lose hope and put a fork in it foreverrrr.

Has anyone had an ex-f-buddy come back around?

feeds@yuku.com (SingJCyouMakeMeShiver) — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 23:51:19 GMT

My (rare) interactions with an ex-f-buddy keep getting friendlier. It has gone from terrified to awkward to cordial/kind to now legitimately friendly. The slow progress is messing with my mind, and makes me wonder if it will go full-circle to where we are sexin' again and/or (ideally) dating. I see it as MAYBE something in the not-so-near future; like even as late as a year from today.
He's banging another chick, so he is probably not thinking of me at all right now. I'm not...