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I am 38- never wanted to be married and never wanted children.

Why? I am not religious at all, hence a piece of paper is meaningless to me.

Also, I really, really resent the insinuation or assumption that simply because I possess two tits and two ovaries, that my goals in life, indeed my priorities, must be finding a man, marrying a man, and having children.

I love my independence. I was raised to believe that IF I find the right person to share my life with, fantastic, but never, ever to settle just because I feel pressure, or am too scared to be alone, or because that is what my extended family or society expects of me. I love my autonomy. I love not having to ask permission of anyone to do something or go somewhere. I love being in control of my own money and what I buy.

I don't feel like I need to comprimise who I am for someone else, change who I am because of someone else, or give up my power as a woman for someone else.

I suppose you can say that I have a very selfish life, in that I do what I want, when I want. My married friends (and even family members) express that they are envious, and particularly the women, say that if they could go back, they would never marry. I think it's because in relationships, especially with children, women still carry most of the burden. Women still have to give in a lot of the time, and give up a lot of personal goals, hopes and expectations to make a marriage work or for the sake of their children.

The best expression I ever read was, "Just because you're alone doesn't mean you're lonely."

So those are my reasons.