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Posts: 24591 (08/26/2008 5:26 PM) |
If my husband had the "no alone time" rule, I'd lose my running partner!
But of course, my husband knows he's invited to come run 6 or so miles of hills with us ANYTIME; he's the one who chooses to give us that alone time together, lol. |
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 lilSS |
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Posts: 9021 (08/26/2008 5:28 PM) |
And Mshinda, youre killing me right now!
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GettinHotWithJC |
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Posts: 35564 (08/26/2008 5:29 PM) |
I don't mind if my boyfriend makes female friends. Or if he hangs out with them alone. Hell I have male friends that I hang out with alone all the time.
But if I can tell they're attracted to him/flirting that's a huge no in my book. No alone time will not happen because I don't trust the girls.
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kwz4angels |
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Posts: 10527 (08/26/2008 5:30 PM) |
What exactly do you think will happen if he hangs out with girls alone? That question is directed to the girls whose boyfriends can't hang out with girls
alone. Like, do you think once you're out of his sight he's gonna jumpr right up on her? Like really, I'm genuinely interested in what you think
will happen if he like goes to dinner with a female friend.
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Rrrrrosie |
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Posts: 12614 (08/26/2008 5:30 PM) |
FunSized wrote:It sucks that I've grown apart from some really great people because of that mentality. Sometimes you just want to spend time with a platonic friend and talk or whatever. It depends on the situation for me as well. But if I'm not confident enough with my boyfriend to let him have female friends then I honestly wouldn't want to be with him because I think the insecurity would fuck up the relationship. |
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Posts: 24459 (08/26/2008 5:31 PM) |
Skiddz82 wrote: lol i've been in a similar situation, except i was the suspicious girl. turns out my gut instinct was right on the mark, too. ever since then, i've never been too keen on really close female friends. i think women can always sense when another girl likes their guy. |
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Posts: 37955 (08/26/2008 5:34 PM) |
I don't think they are going to jump on each other as soon as they get alone, I just think it's disrespectful to me and our relationship. There are
just certain things that change when you are commited to someone, and this happens to be one of those things for us.
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GettinHotWithJC |
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Posts: 35567 (08/26/2008 5:37 PM) |
Question for those who don't want they bf's hanging out with female friends alone.
What about you? Do you hang out with any of your male friends without your bf around? |
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DrtyPopMe |
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Posts: 37956 (08/26/2008 5:39 PM) |
I don't hang with any of my male friends alone.
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Posts: 822 (08/26/2008 5:40 PM) |
GettinHotWithJC wrote: No..come to think of it..I don't even have any male friends that are close enough where I would hang out with them alone. I have male co-workers..but it doesn't go past that. |
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kwz4angels |
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Posts: 10528 (08/26/2008 5:44 PM) |
I would feel very sad if I lived closer to my best friend and he had a girlfriend with that rule. He's not someone I would ever have a relationship with,
but he and I can talk about everything and I don't have to worry about him judging me or anything.
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Jillian808 |
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Posts: 13628 (08/26/2008 6:24 PM) |
I hate women who call at like 2am. Hello, you better be about to die because my ass was SLEEPING and I don't play that.
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xxGirlxxFixerxx |
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Posts: 1065 (08/26/2008 6:35 PM) |
I guess because I have a best male friend I would never get into a relationship with someone who expected me to end my friendship with him/forbid me from
seeing him. My best friend means the world to me, he's like a brother to me, and I would never trade that for a boyfriend. He's been with me through
the good, the bad, and the ugly. Therefore, I would never expect for my boyfriend to drop his close female friend(s), because I know that opposite sex's
can be good friends and that those friendships are just as meaningful and important as same sex friendships.
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08/26/2008 6:39 PM.
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Posts: 2594 (08/26/2008 6:37 PM) |
From the other perspective, my best friend is a married guy. He's eight years older than me and been married for ten years and I met him about three years
ago. We hang out a lot and are alone together all the time and there is nothing sinister at all on either side. We flirt like crazy but in the same stupid way
I flirt with any of my guy friends but the thought of acting on anything makes my stomach churn. He's like a big protective older brother, not someone
I'm attracted to.
His wife doesn't have a problem with it whatsoever and I've become quite close with her to because of it as I really, really respect that she's so happy, comfortable and confident in his love for her that it doesn't bother her because I know it would bother a lot of women I know. She's in on the whole thing too, will joke around about the two of us...gave me a framed photo of the two of us drunkingly spooning. At the end of the day, though we are close friends I know my place in my life, that his family will always come first and I wouldn't be friends with him if it were any different.
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08/26/2008 6:39 PM.
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FunSized |
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Posts: 586 (08/26/2008 6:56 PM) |
Rrrrrosie wrote:My boyfriend has a ton of female friends, and I do trust him completely, but one on ones just seem a bit odd to me (unless of course, their relationship preceded me). Here was the situation that caused me to think this way: He became friends with a girl from work. She invited him out with a group of people for dinner. I was completely fine with this, and encouraged him to go and have fun with everybody. He arrived at the restaurant to see her sitting alone, all dressed up, saying that she was sorry that nobody else from the group could come. She thought that instead, she and my boyfriend could have dinner alone, and afterwards, go back to her house and watch a movie. Despite the fact that I trust my boyfriend 150%, this was very disrespectful to me. I was happy that my boyfriend was smart enough to sense that this wasn't right. |
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kwz4angels |
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Posts: 10535 (08/26/2008 7:09 PM) |
FunSized wrote:Well, that girl is a douche bag. And it was great that your boyfriend knew that it wasn't right and left. Obviously I wouldn't say that you should encourage him to hang out with her again. But you can't assume every girl is gonna do this. I've met guys that I have just clicked with and they have girlfriends, and I don't think anything is gonna happen because they have a girlfriend. You can't hold every girl responsible for what some crazy girls do. 
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Jillian808 |
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Posts: 13632 (08/26/2008 7:10 PM) |
I hate girl on girl crime but a lot of women just don't act right
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FunSized |
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Posts: 587 (08/26/2008 7:14 PM) |
I know what you mean kwz. Unfortunately, there are more crazy girls out there than sane ones.
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GiRrOcKs621 |
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Posts: 417 (08/26/2008 7:17 PM) |
I'm not quite 'secure or together', but I think I do well enough to trust my fiance. It isn't him that I don't trust, it's the other
women. My ex best friend was having problems with her marriage, and started hanging out with my fiance (we weren't engaged then) while I was visiting
family in ITALY. Mind you, she didn't hang out with him alone before this time. When he told me this on the phone, I didn't get it and it made an
already horrible vacation worse. When I got home, I set him straight. When I found out that he had been hanging out with his ex (whom I CANNOT stand) behind my
back, I told him if he ever did it again, he could find his way back to where he came from before moving in with me.
I don't have a problem with him having female friends, but unless I know this girl isn't going to try anything, I'd rather he not hang out with her. As someone said, it's the females I don't trust a lot of the time. |
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Posts: 28673 (08/26/2008 7:18 PM) |
I draw the line at overly, overtly flirting that no longer comes off as joking, excessive hanging out alone, or anything that someone else could misconstrue as
they are dating.
It really depends though...each guy is different and in each relationship there are different levels of trust, security..etc.. |
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