lovleybones wrote:
GettinHotWithJC wrote:
Question for those who don't want they bf's hanging out with female friends alone.
What about you? Do you hang out with any of your male friends without your bf around?
No..come to think of it..I don't even have any male friends that are close enough where I would hang out with them alone. I have male co-workers..but it doesn't go past that.
S/O: Where do you 'secure and together' women draw the line?
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Posts: 3707 (08/26/2008 7:36 PM) |
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kariya the dog |
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Posts: 7233 (08/26/2008 7:51 PM) |
I don't draw the line. I give him the benefit of the doubt. I do this because I AM that female that every body hates around here. I am that female that can
totally be JUST friends with a male who is single, married, in a relationship, whatever and just hang out and have fun. I am the "guy's girl" so
to speak.
But at the same time, you have to know who you're dating. If he's totally changing for her and doing things he normally would not ever do, then that should send up a red flag. |
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ADHDforLIFE |
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Posts: 18090 (08/26/2008 9:56 PM) |
A coworker of mine who moved here because his girlfriend went to grad school here became one of my closest friends over the past year. He moved two weeks ago
to go to grad school in TN. She and I hung out last week, and have plans to hang out this week too. He and I hung out one-on-one all the time, carpooled
together, went to dinner when she was out of town. I'm flying to Arizona to visit him at school in a couple of months (she won't be living there yet).
She knew about us hanging out, and was totally cool with it, which is great. Otherwise, I'd have missed out on a really great friendship. They got engaged
two weeks ago, and I'll be traveling to Tennessee for their wedding in May.
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FirstStrike |
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Posts: 1835 (08/26/2008 9:57 PM) |
Someone was listening to cosmo this morning on Sirius.
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 muffinlover |
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Posts: 13808 (08/26/2008 10:02 PM) |
Meh, I used to be really uptight about it, but now I could care less who he hangs out with. If he's taking a girl out to eat somewhere nice or having
drinks with someone alone, I might suspicious though. He knows he can talk to me about anything though, so I don't really worry.
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ADHDforLIFE |
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Posts: 18091 (08/26/2008 10:06 PM) |
Yeah. If they act like friends - cool. If they act like girlfriends - not cool.
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OhManImScrewed |
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Posts: 12661 (08/26/2008 10:07 PM) |
FunSized wrote:I agree. I don't really care if he hangs out with other girls as long as it's a group thing. Hell, he went on Spring Break without me and he was staying with a bunch of other girls but I was OK with that because it was a group. I wouldn't be too happy if my BF was hanging out constantly with one girl alone all the time though. That's the line for me. |
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Posts: 22997 (08/26/2008 10:10 PM) |
ZaZzified wrote:That's basically what I was coming in here to say. I would be 100x more concerned about things he is not telling me about (or "friends" he does not tell me about). Example...I have an ex boyfriend who I go waaay back with, we've known eachother over 10 years. He has had a girlfriend for the last 4 years and she doesn't know that I exist. Gotta wonder why. 
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SaveCleo |
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Posts: 8922 (08/26/2008 10:11 PM) |
ZaZzified wrote:Yep. |
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texaskiwi85 |
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Posts: 5559 (08/26/2008 10:12 PM) |
I draw the line at spending lots of alone time with them or being close on an emotional level. It's one thing if he's friendly with another
friend's girlfriend or they chat from time to time. I'm not ok with them being attached at the hip or extremely close.
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maifanluva00 |
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Posts: 3756 (08/26/2008 11:03 PM) |
I don't care who he hangs out with. Even alone. Most of my friends happen to be guys so there is NO way he could try to enforce some rule like that onto me
so I wouldn't do it to him.
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Dylishis |
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Posts: 30120 (08/27/2008 11:01 AM) Most Outspoken '08 |
Bump for me!
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starlightperfume |
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Posts: 1788 (08/27/2008 11:14 AM) |
My husband used to be friends with lots of girls. I didn't mind much until he always had girls calling him and them saying I shouldn't be jealous
because they are just friends. He used to use our only car to take them places and leave me and our kids sitting at him. We are going through a divorce right
now.
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Dylishis |
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Posts: 30122 (08/27/2008 11:23 AM) Most Outspoken '08 |
saying I shouldn't be jealous because they are just friends.I hate this because I don't think that being uncomfortable about something= jealousy. I'm jealous of things that I don't have. How could I be jealous of something MY man was doing? 
I'm jealous if my best friend wins a million bucks. I'm jealous of people that I started school with who graduated way before me! I'm jealous of celebrities that are famous for nothing. I'm jealous of people who get rich for nothing. Some girl comes out of nowhere and decides to be all up in my man's face? Noooo. That's not jealousy. That's an intrusion that I can't even see myself being cool with.  It's not her fault but I definitely would have words with my guy if it bothered me. That is NOT jealousy. I
don't care. It's more territorial than anything. I never thought the two were synonymous.
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Amy Via Hiptop |
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Posts: 2580 (08/27/2008 11:25 AM) |
^ I agree with you. Well said.
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Dylishis |
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Posts: 30125 (08/27/2008 11:30 AM) Most Outspoken '08 |
It always bothered me. It's so insulting for a guy to say something like "Stop being so jealous." That puts you and whoever is making you
uncomfortable on equal ground and it should NOT be that way.
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Dylishis |
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Posts: 30131 (08/27/2008 11:40 AM) Most Outspoken '08 |
VelvetRope11 wrote:See, I think I would draw the line at flirting period. I've learned that when you give people an inch, they'll run a mile.
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