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The thing about couples that save themselves, Ive spoken to women who were in a different religion (ultra orthodox/hasisdic Jews) and all that no no no to sexuality makes it when you are allowed to be sexual, a complicated switch. The wedding day happens and you are finally allowed to touch and its like zero to 90 in one night. Most of us start out kissing, making out, and if we are lucky, eventually be fully sexual when we choose and when it is the right time for us.
They are told sex outside of marriage is bad, that masturbating is sin, that feeling sexual is sin, etc...all those feelings turned off. Its not so easy after years of brainwashing to suddenly let go and be sexual. Its not this magic moment necessarily.
The girls usually find the wedding night painful because they are with virgins who are in a rush and no one teaches the boys about female response or the clitoris.
I had an Indian friend (hindu) who was in an arranged marriage, she said the first couple of weeks of marriage they just agreed to fool around and make out and when the time was right they would move on up to sex. She said by the time they started having sex they were so stupid, they had so much sex she could barely walk. No one explained the vagina needs time to recuperate when you are first starting out.