I don't have a best friend. I have people that I do things with that I met in graduate school. I do need to meet other people that I can go to clubs with,
the people that I met I school aren't really in to my type of clubbing.
Do any of you NOT have a best friend or friends at all?
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Posts: 20335 (11/29/2008 11:30 PM) |
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TheFreshPrincess |
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Posts: 855 (11/29/2008 11:38 PM) |
I stopped talking to my best friend 3 years ago over some petty shit and she is the only person I ever let get close to me. When people look at me, they assume
I am living the life. They think I got a man, they think I have a lot of friends and that I have just have it all. In reality I can't let people get close
to me, because I'm just scared they will judge me.
I didn't have the ideal family growing up and I live in a house where people don't even say one word to one another. I can't even bring my friends over. I also don't like people feeling sorry for me. Because of this, I push people away when they ask questions and always keep my family life and personal life a secret. I know this is stupid, but I'm trying to get over these issues. I just feel people expect so much from so I have to put on this facade to the world. In the end, I'm just lying to myself and pushing people away. wooh, feels good to let that out. |
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fighter03 |
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Posts: 8923 (11/29/2008 11:47 PM) |
I used to have 2 best friends but now I don't have any since one is interning in Florida and the other moved away. I have a lot of friends that I usually
hang out with if it's someones birthday or whatever but usually I'm by myself. It sucks but I've learned to be happy being alone.
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Enga11 |
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Posts: 626 (11/29/2008 11:47 PM) |
I have a friend that we do go shopping together. That is it. All my friends from high school have moved away. All my friends from college are busy with their
husbands and children. I'm sitting here on a Saturday night. That should be a dead give away.
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rockcandy2008 |
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Posts: 670 (11/29/2008 11:53 PM) |
Well, fwif, the best friend you can have is yourself... I've found that surrounding myself with people who are similar to myself (same interests and goals)
are pretty damn easy to relate to and get to know.
Look, you don't have to reveal everything about yourself in great detail to befriend other folks. Just be you. If people coming around wanna get all up in your bizness, all nosy and shit, you don't need them around you anyway. Just be you, pursue your goals and interests and you'll find yourself around the right people. |
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rachiee |
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Posts: 1722 (11/29/2008 11:55 PM) |
I just turned 20 and my best friend is my sister, she's the only person I feel comfortable just calling to see what's up or talk about what happened
during the day. But aside from her, I don't have any other best friends.
The friends that I have, I've had since I was about 12/13. There's about 10-15 of us and in our group there are groups within the group. I don't fit in with any of them. Since we started college 3 years ago, it's been hard to hang out and what not, especially since I live an hour away from everyone. I usually see them only on special occasions like holidays and even then it's getting tougher. I'm always envious of those people that have best friends outside of their families that they can just call up and hang out with. |
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saz632 |
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Posts: 7373 (11/29/2008 11:59 PM) |
I'm currently in between best friends. I had one, but things didn't work out. I have good friends who I can talk to, but no one who I can talk to for
extended periods of time about anything and everything.
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celebrityprincess23 |
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Posts: 2389 (11/30/2008 12:00 AM) |
I have a "best friend" when she feels in the mood. She gets so mad at me because I'm "ignoring" her. Which isn't the case. I'm
a production coordinator for small budget films, I work 16 hour days sometimes because I'm the UPM's assistant. so when he's on set, I'm there
running my ass off to do the things he can't. I hang out with the crew because we're on location for months at a time together. My friends from my old
job at starbucks, try and understand but its hard for them. They all think I'm ignoring them for my "New friends" which sorry, if any of you
worked in films or anything, you know that you're not always with the same crew of people.
So my boyfriend is just my best friend. *shrug* |
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TheFreshPrincess |
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Posts: 857 (11/30/2008 12:03 AM) |
rockcandy2008 wrote:you are so right. 
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shalaane |
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Posts: 375 (11/30/2008 12:09 AM) |
I have a lot of acquaintances where I am right now, mostly friends of friends and friends from school and I get along great with my roommate although we
don't constantly hang out. But I don't have a group of friend. My current "omg you're not gonna believe what happened" girl is not in the
same city. I'm usually the one who calls and tries to plan. I'd love to have more people call me!
My real best friends are back home. I have 4 or 5 (guys and girls) that I've known for 15+ years and that I would trust with my life. |
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Tammy74 |
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Posts: 1090 (11/30/2008 12:15 AM) |
I have one best friend I can tell anything too.
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nickscdngirl |
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Posts: 9007 (11/30/2008 12:18 AM) |
I dont have a best friend - I use to have a BFF but we had a horrible falling out & I dont think I can trust anyone because of her ...
I have my cousin who Im really close with & I tell her EVERYTHING  I have a handful of friends but i dont see them a lot because they live 45mins to 1hr
away ... I try to see 1 of them a lot because were close 
I always said if i got married - I would have the hardest time finding my bridal party & my hubby better not have lots of friends or i would be renting some for the day 
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Posts: 592 (11/30/2008 12:34 AM) |
Awww this post makes me sad. I really mean that, I'm not just being an asshole.
The worst feeling in the world is to be lonely. After I graduated college and my closest friends got serious boyfriends and babies I was very very lonely. I was also lonely when I moved to a new city for work. Long story short, I was able to import my BFF to be my roomate. I also try to be really social at work and invite people to happy hours, movies, parties. I don't want anyone to feel lonely. I do miss having a group of friends that were all connected to each other, but I think once you are out of highschool/college that only happens on TV haha. |
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Kourtnie |
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Posts: 2362 (11/30/2008 12:36 AM) |
Doppelganger wrote:Me too. I have my gf and a few friends from a Pagan Meetup group but my gf mainly sets up the things we do with them. I have a crazy phone phobia which doesn't help matters. I had some awesome online friends I pushed away too. ETA: I'm 28 |
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caryse |
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Posts: 569 (11/30/2008 1:07 AM) |
I just wanted to add that this topic made me feel so much better about my social situation. I didn't realize how many other people struggle with the same
thing. I've always felt like I was probably the only one who didn't have many, if any, real friends, and socializing and having meaningful friendship
was just something everyone else did. I tried to hide that aspect of my life...little did I realize so many other
people hide it, too.
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RayneJole |
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Posts: 9 (11/30/2008 2:24 AM) |
I have the opposite problem in a sense; I think I'm actively pushing my friends away. I have two best friends from high school who are really great
"in a jam" people, like if any of us called at 3am and needed a ride no questions asked from or to most anywhere, we'd be there. The problem is
as we've gotten older I think our lives have grown apart. College changed a lot of things for me. I used to sit on the phone and talk about nothing in high
school all night and once I got to school I joined the dance company and i had to work and I had built in people right there to hang out with. I don't
think i made a decent effort to keep in touch. My friends did most of the calling and I got into the habit of just not answering if I couldn't talk instead
explaining what I was doing, where I was, and who I was with. That habit has gotten worse. I'm at the point where I almost can't stand talking on the
phone. I know this sounds awful. I think It's because our lives are so different now, one just had a baby, the other is engaged and neither are interested
in the same things as I am. They are practically settled and i feel like I have a lot more growing up to do. I've been going through a rough time, I quit
my job before the economic mess thinking I would get another in 2 months flat and that hasn't been the case. I'm moving to NYC to crash on my
sister's couch and go on job interviews. I guess I feel inadequate compared to them and when we talk I don't have much to say. Not much changes in my
life except for the playlist I run to and the storyline on General Hospital (barely). And I know they couldn't care less about a soap opera and i don't
want to complain. I feel like they have real things going on and I'm still being selfish.
I know I'm not the best friend to have, I have actually lost other friends because they said I did not call them enough. I'm rereading what I wrote and I think I make things more complicated than they have to be. |
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Posts: 1156 (11/30/2008 2:27 AM) |
nope. I have old best friends I keep in touch with every now and then. It's really just my close family, my fiance and my two little ones.
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TwistedTwist |
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Posts: 3451 (11/30/2008 10:06 AM) |
likethatyall wrote:I agree. |
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