Need help writing a letter to my exboyfriend.
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100CalorieLoren |
Need help writing a letter to my exboyfriend. |
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Posts: 134 (01/27/2009 9:54 PM) |
I just want to send him a short little email letting him know that I don't want things to be awkward between us, and that I'm fine with us just being
friends. When we broke up I didn't really say much, and I told him that I can't be friends with ex's. I was pretty upset at first, but after the
first week I'm perfectly fine. I ran into his friends at the bar over the weekend and had a ton of fun, so I'd hate for that not to be possible if he
was around. Everything I write up makes me sound desperate
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Sleepn |
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Posts: 15683 (01/27/2009 9:55 PM) Most Mysterious '08 |
i can't advise what to say, but don't be too wordy. keep it short & to the point.
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merchasa |
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Posts: 971 (01/27/2009 9:56 PM) |
i would just let it go
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Mistress Darcy |
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Posts: 7296 (01/27/2009 9:56 PM) |
**whew** I thought this was going to be one of those help me write a 17 page letter front and back begging for him back letter.
I would just keep it really short, sweet, and quick. Almost like a memo-you don't need to add details or rehash the break-up or talk about how you still care for him or whatever. |
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jgsgal24 |
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Posts: 416 (01/27/2009 9:57 PM) |
Just tell him you've thought about things & you hope that you two can still be friends. Keep it short.
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lance is purralicious |
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Posts: 15001 (01/27/2009 9:59 PM) |
I wouldn't even bother. Because to be honest, you might feel okay right now, especially because you said "after the first week." I think with
breakups a lot of times you get a false sense of being okay with things later on, and then feelings complicate later on.
It's obviously dependent on the situation, but if you really want to be friends with him, then just show him that through your actions, don't write a letter. |
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annievictoria |
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Posts: 2478 (01/27/2009 9:59 PM) |
i agree, keep it really short. just say something like,
"you were right, i think we should stay friends!" maybe add something about we always had fun going out together and it doesn't need to stop just because it didn't work out between you guys. |
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100CalorieLoren |
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Posts: 135 (01/27/2009 10:01 PM) |
Hey! I just wanted to send you a short msg and let you know that I don't want things to be awkward between us. I ran into your friends at the bar the other night and had a lot of fun, and I don't want you to think I'm mad or upset at you anything. We didn't date all that long, so I don't see the point in the whole "no contact" thing. Hope all is well and good luck with your applications! (is this good?) |
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100CalorieLoren |
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Posts: 136 (01/27/2009 10:03 PM) |
****forgot to add, him and I had a conversation once that we don't believe in being friends with exes, so thats why I want to send him a msg. Even if I am
still upset (i lost my virginity to this guy) I just want him to know that I'm doing fine. I'm going to run into him (we live near eachother and hang
out at the same spots) and I just really don't want things to be awkward. It'll make things worse for me.
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Sleepn |
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Posts: 15686 (01/27/2009 10:03 PM) Most Mysterious '08 |
you're not seeking to make him jealous or antagonize him with the "I ran into your friends at the bar the other night and had a lot of
fun"...right?
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100CalorieLoren |
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Posts: 137 (01/27/2009 10:06 PM) |
No, no, no. He currently lives in another state, so he doesn't see them much. His friends love me and we have a ton of fun together, they really are a
great group of guys. I don't want it to sound like that at all. I honestly like hanging out with them.
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merchasa |
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Posts: 972 (01/27/2009 10:09 PM) |
just let it go. if he reaches out to you act friendly and maybe make a comment that you are glad to make an exception and become friends with someone you
dated. thats it. dont say more it adds to the awkwardness.
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JenniferG |
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Posts: 1101 (01/27/2009 10:30 PM) |
I agree with just let it go. If you run into him, be friendly. Emailing him with "I'm ok with being friends" could be misconstrued into "OMG
PLEASE BE MY FRIEND, I LOVE YOU LOVE LOVE LOVE OMG OMG OMG IM CRAZY!".
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