jgsgal24 wrote:I wish I had advice for you. My ex and I broke up 5 years ago after being together for 3 but we still talk to each other 2 to 3 times a week and are in this gray area. I am not over him but we are in contact and are open about our feelings and everything that goes on in our lives. Since he has moved on, I really think that is a sign for you to let go.
Butterflygal20 wrote:
jgsgal24 wrote:Has he moved on?
celebtrashwhore wrote:
So you dated from 16 to 24?
Are you guys still in contact?
Yes, 16-24.
No. I still talk to & see his parents a lot though. We tried the friends thing for a while but it was just too hard.
He has a girlfriend, yes.
How long should it take to get over an 8 year relationship?
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celebtrashwhore wrote: True and no, I don't need therapy. This doesn't consume my life! I'm a generally happy person & I DO get out & enjoy life. It's not like I'm sitting at home crying every night just waiting for him to call. I know he's gone. I just can't help what I feel ya know? and what's in my heart..... |
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Posts: 14600 (03/16/2009 9:07 PM) |
I think your statute of limitations is up on this one, hon.
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Posts: 531 (03/16/2009 9:10 PM) |
PuraVidaPanama wrote: Got cha the 1st time! Hee-hee! And yeap, I think so too! |
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Posts: 6467 (03/16/2009 9:12 PM) |
Do you want to let go of whats "in your heart"?
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Posts: 42853 (03/16/2009 9:13 PM) Most Likely to be Online '02 |
You DO need therapy. You haven't gotten over your ex in SIX YEARS.
SIX YEARS!! |
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Posts: 15973 (03/16/2009 9:15 PM) |
It's so hard to get over someone when you were with them for a really long time and the end wasn't really because anything bad happened, it just
wasn't right for the 2 of you. Just keep getting on with your life and hopefully things will fall into place eventually. As someone else said, therapy may
help, just to be able to talk it all out and get rid of it.
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Posts: 533 (03/16/2009 9:15 PM) |
glamsoda wrote: How do you know what I need? 
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Posts: 16575 (03/16/2009 9:16 PM) Most Mysterious '08 |
i guess you're holding onto it, because you like it and need to. it'll blind you to actual potential, though, should that come along.
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Posts: 42854 (03/16/2009 9:17 PM) Most Likely to be Online '02 |
jgsgal24 wrote: Because I'm not retarded. If you're still hung up on someone after SIX YEARS, there's something wrong with you. |
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Posts: 534 (03/16/2009 9:24 PM) |
glamsoda wrote: Nothing is "wrong with me" for having a HUGE heart & for loving someone with it. And....I never said my life has been standing still for 6 years! |
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Posts: 1511 (03/16/2009 9:25 PM) |
See there is therapy for serious shit like depression, but I think a shorter course of therapy specifically for post relationship issues is ok. if you love
yourself as much as you loved him, then give yourself some help.
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Posts: 535 (03/16/2009 9:26 PM) |
merchasa wrote: Wait...so now I'm DEPRESSED?!?!?!
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Posts: 16577 (03/16/2009 9:27 PM) Most Mysterious '08 |
what are you looking for with this post? are you just in the mood for a tennis match of back & forth so you can think things through some more? lol
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Posts: 536 (03/16/2009 9:29 PM) |
Sleepn wrote: Not looking for anything......And no, I don't like tennis. 
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jgsgal24 wrote:She specifically said you are NOT depressed. And I agree with her that therapy isn't just for depression... there are all kinds of things that therapy can help with. I have considered therapy to help get over one of my exes, not because I miss him but because he fucked me up emotionally. |
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Posts: 537 (03/16/2009 9:39 PM) |
AudaciousAudrey wrote: I know. I went back & re-read. I guess therapy wouldn't be a BAD thing but I don't think it would change anything. Besides, I'm at peace with it. I said in the OP that I now know why we broke up & that it makes sense to me now. I do still love him but that's as far as it goes. |
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Posts: 1301 (03/16/2009 9:40 PM) |
I really hope and pray everything goes good for you. I know how you feel and I think it's you should talk to him and tell him how you truly feel.
You've been hiding emotions for almost 6 years and of course that is going to eat you alive. I think it's important for you to get together at a coffee
shop and let it all out and see what happens. Don't leave this unfinished, it's time to finally tell him and whatever happens, happens. But tell me how
it goes, good luck and I wish and pray for the best!
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