Ok, so I talked with this guy on aim for about a month before we had drinks (we met on match). Anyways, drinks went fairly well I thought. At one point, the
waiter asked if he wanted another (I was almost done with my drink...so if he would have said no, we would have departed ways in about 5 min), but he ended up
getting another. And, in general the convo was pretty good, etc. So, when I was talking to my guy friend (who isn't stereotypical male), he said that he
wasn't interested because he didn't make plan for a second date before we left. Which would have be fine. I can handle that. I mean it kind of sucked
because I thought he could have maybe so potential. But, hey he's just not that into me, right? Well I was starting to get that into my head and be
perfectly fine with that....But, what I am confused about is that fact the next day he ims me and we had a nice little chat. A few days later I IM him, and he
goes on and on how I was so much better than he expected, etc. And, then a day, maybe two days, he IMs again. We had a very lengthy convo..during which he
commented on how our time together so wasn't awkward or anything. Then, he proceeded to write "happy birthday" on my facebook wall...and made a
"soandso like this" comment about my status. Why is still talking to me? I really don't want to have a little online chat buddy...I mean I have
real friends that I see all the time. I don't need online ones. uggh
why are guys soo confusing?
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why are guys soo confusing? |
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The last migration |
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Posts: 8200 (04/18/2009 10:16 PM) |
Guys are born to fuck with your head. In order to convince you to fuck their heads.
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Triple X Tera |
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Posts: 31972 (04/18/2009 10:21 PM) |
Perhaps your guy friend was wrong about him not wanting a second date?
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Posts: 1701 (04/18/2009 10:23 PM) |
Triple X Tera wrote:yeah, maybe he is interested and just trying to see if you are. why don't you suggest another meeting to see what he says |
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Posts: 1741 (04/18/2009 10:24 PM) |
Ha you got friend zoned.
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The last migration |
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Posts: 8207 (04/18/2009 10:24 PM) |
Why is still talking to me? He wants in your pants |
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Posts: 5579 (04/18/2009 10:27 PM) |
Even though you didn't make plans for a second date, did you guys talk about doing things together in the future at all?
If he's still talking to you, he might be interested. Casually suggest hanging out again and see where it goes. |
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Posts: 350 (04/18/2009 10:33 PM) |
Ok, well here is the issue....at the end of the date, we had a goodbye, and i can't remember what the hell either of us said because well i was just a
touch tipsy (not visibly, but you know when you can tell that you are going down that path. PS poor idea to go and get drinks without eating all day..poor
plan) and I was in aw that he was 6'4" and I had to stand on my tiptoes when we hugged...and his arms were super strong. It was a really good hug in
terms of hugs.
And, I totally could be rationalizing why he didn't ask about this weekend...one it was my birthday and two, my parents were in town (which he knew about).. i don't knowww
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Posts: 2056 (04/19/2009 4:32 PM) Favorite Newcomer '09
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You don't think us guys think you girls are confusing???
 
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Posts: 42857 (04/19/2009 4:35 PM) Most Likely to be Online '02 |
Call him and see if he wants to go out again. If he doesn't say "yes" and make plans with you, stop talking to him.
He's either not into you, but wants to make sure you don't hate him. OR he's very socially awkward and too afraid to ask you out on a second date. |
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Posts: 48806 (04/19/2009 4:35 PM) |
The last migration wrote: So are women though.  We're just as bad or worse than guys.
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Posts: 351 (04/19/2009 4:36 PM) |
I never said we weren't confusing...but you are too!!!
I was talking to my friend last night, and she said I may come off as "too independent." Which is sooo not the case. I put my independent front so I don't look needy and desperate, which is more how I actually feel. fml |
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Posts: 238 (04/19/2009 4:37 PM) |
Why are you over thinking this? This is what chases guys away and why girls end up alone forever. Forever.
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Posts: 48808 (04/19/2009 4:37 PM) |
exclusivehoodie wrote: You're actually not wrong.
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exclusivehoodie |
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Posts: 239 (04/19/2009 4:38 PM) |
Alex the Goob wrote:Don't act so surprised! |
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Posts: 10899 (04/19/2009 4:40 PM) |
1) He's sounds like an immature guy. Who talks through AIM and shit and doesn't even call you?
2) He's not looking for a gf. He's putting you in his "spank bank" so to speak. At arms length so he can always have a casual thing with you 3) IA with your guy friend that says if a guy doesn't make plans for a 2nd date at the end of the 1st, he's just no that into you. |
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Posts: 20981 (04/19/2009 4:42 PM) |
Can you stop talking to him on IM? Um maybe you can ask him out.
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Posts: 13443 (04/19/2009 4:48 PM) |
DarthRedimo wrote: Don't laugh. This is a sucky place for anyone to be. |
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Posts: 693 (04/19/2009 4:50 PM) |
If he didn't make plans for a second date at the end of the first date, but continues talking to you and says he enjoyed the date, it seems like it's
just that nobody told him this "rule" about making additional plans immediately! I think you're overthinking this.
See where it goes. Ask him to hang out again; if he avoids it, you'll know he's not interested. But maybe he's just wanting YOU to show some interest now, so HE doesn't come off pushy/needy/weird either? Personally, I wouldn't give up on someone right away just because I'm making assumptions about their interest based on whether they followed some rule or not. |
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Posts: 352 (04/19/2009 6:31 PM) |
Ok, well here is the plan...
If we talk on aim during the next few days..then on wednesday, i'll send him a text to see if drinks on friday/saturday would be good? |
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