This was seriously a shock. He was only in his 50's. Wow... I didn't have a relationship with him, but I don't really know how to help my wife. She
told me to go to work and she is spending the day with her mom. I wish I could be there for her.
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Posts: 29156 (04/26/2009 8:49 AM) Chris Fanatic '03 |
Sorry for your families loss. My FIL passed away Jan. 25th. He had MS and was on hospice the last year of his life so we all had time to deal with his death
before it actually happened. He too was only in his 50's. Best you can do is listen to your wife when she's ready to talk about it. She is probably
keeping her thoughts straight by staying strong for her mother. That might be why she's spending time with her now. Your MIL probably needs the help the
most right now.
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Posts: 10531 (04/26/2009 8:53 AM) |
My wife told me she prepared for his death because she knew he was never in the best of health through his whole life, but still...wow. He died at his boat
club. They were having a party. I said at least he died doing what he loved - being at his boat club.
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Posts: 1565 (04/26/2009 8:58 AM) |
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. JUST BE THERE FOR YOUR WIFE, she will say she is fine, but this is her dad, and she is probably trying to be strong for
her family.
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Posts: 185 (04/26/2009 10:32 AM) |
As someone who has lost both my parents, and my husband's mother I can tell you she will need you more in the days to come than right at this moment. You
can be her support when she gets home. You can ease her stress by taking care of your home and lives by seeing to the chores and things that she usually does
around the house. Right now, she needs to support her mother.
She will need you in the days to come when the shock wears off, and she will need your patience in the coming months, when the depression hits. And it will. She may *think* she prepared for this, but the reality of the situation is far more brutal than the imagination allows for. My condolences on her loss, and yours too. Even though you didn't have a relationship with him, his passing will affect you too. Take care of each other. |
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Posts: 2339 (04/26/2009 10:40 AM) |
chocolate covered raisins wrote:What did your FIL die from if you don't mind me asking. My father also has MS and I can't imagine it causing him to be in hospice care. Did he have a complication with something? To the OP: I am so sorry for your loss. Your wife needs much support now, but be with her in the coming months as well. I can't imagine how hard it would be to lose a father. |
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Posts: 2057 (04/26/2009 10:50 AM) |
I'm very sorry.
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Posts: 5073 (04/26/2009 10:52 AM) |
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how awful that would be if my father in law died.
 My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Posts: 2145 (04/26/2009 2:18 PM) |
i'm so sorry. you are all in my thoughts.
like the posters before me have said, just be there for her, even if she says she doesn't need you or seems "okay". and just...listen when she needs to talk. sometimes the best thing you can offer is a listening ear. |
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