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IHeartDrDorian	So I don't know what to do...	Lead	[-]
Posts: 10303 (08/06/2009 7:07 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	My friend is having a party. However, my boyfriend and I already made plans for that day. We were going to do stuff in the day together and then go out to dinner that night. I haven't seen him all week, so like obviously, I want to see him. I told her that I had already had plans with him (kind of expecting her to say that he could stop by too) - but all that she said was "Well, I'd really like for you to stop by." I don't know if she doesn't like him or something, even though she doesn't even know him - but I just don't get it. If it were me, I'd say well have him stop by too.
skyblue87		#1	[-]
Posts: 524 (08/06/2009 7:08 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	How good of a friend is this? And how often do you see her?
IHeartDrDorian		#2	[-]
Posts: 10304 (08/06/2009 7:11 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	A semi-good friend. Not my best friend, but a good friend. Eh, we see each other occasionally. I've invited her to places but she's been busy and stuff. So it's been bad scheduling these days.
AudaciousAudrey		#3	[-]
Posts: 28590 (08/06/2009 7:14 PM) Biggest Know It All '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	If I was having a party I would expect my friends to bring their boyfriends. It's weird to expect everyone to come alone. Maybe she was implying the both of you when she said "I'd really like for you to stop by."
JulieAnne20		#4	[-]
Posts: 34891 (08/06/2009 7:17 PM) Best Debater '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Yeah, maybe "you" was meant as a plural.
ARODsgirl13		#5	[-]
Posts: 2143 (08/06/2009 7:18 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Honestly, if you already made plans with your bf and you haven't seen him in a few days I would tell the friend that maybe you would stop by her house after you and your bf had dinner or something.
Semirhage626		#6	[-]
Posts: 7075 (08/06/2009 7:20 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	JulieAnne20 wrote: Yeah, maybe "you" was meant as a plural. That was my thought too. I might just assume it was, and stop by with him. Even if you know it wasn't I mean, unless it's supposed to be some all-girls party, I think bringing him is natural. Is she crazy enough to pitch a tantrum or something?
IHeartDrDorian		#7	[-]
Posts: 10306 (08/06/2009 7:20 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	AudaciousAudrey wrote: If I was having a party I would expect my friends to bring their boyfriends. It's weird to expect everyone to come alone. Maybe she was implying the both of you when she said "I'd really like for you to stop by." So would I... But I really don't think that it was a "you" implying me and him - because when I asked her once if he could come to this thing at a BAR, just out of courtesy, she was like "I'd really rather have him not come." (which actually pissed me off but whatever) But maybe I should just ask her directly and see what she says from there.
IHeartDrDorian		#8	[-]
Posts: 10307 (08/06/2009 7:20 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Semirhage626 wrote: JulieAnne20 wrote: Yeah, maybe "you" was meant as a plural. That was my thought too. I might just assume it was, and stop by with him. Even if you know it wasn't I mean, unless it's supposed to be some all-girls party, I think bringing him is natural. Is she crazy enough to pitch a tantrum or something? Probably not... And there will be guys there as well, including some guy she's seeing.
McCaining Around		#9	[-]
Posts: 307 (08/06/2009 7:21 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	N/m
kwz4angels		#10	[-]
Posts: 11920 (08/06/2009 7:21 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	If you already have plans then tell her you can't make it. I'm sure she'll understand.
IHeartDrDorian		#11	[-]
Posts: 10308 (08/06/2009 7:22 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	kwz4angels wrote: If you already have plans then tell her you can't make it. I'm sure she'll understand. I told her that, and her response was "Well I'd really like you to stop by."
ARODsgirl13		#12	[-]
Posts: 2144 (08/06/2009 7:24 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Then you say, "well I'd really like you to shut the fuck up" and be done with it But what kind of party is this? Will it be over after you guys go out to dinner? I don't understand why you can't do everything
IHeartDrDorian		#13	[-]
Posts: 10311 (08/06/2009 7:24 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	ARODsgirl13 wrote: Then you say, "well I'd really like you to shut the fuck up" and be done with it But what kind of party is this? Will it be over after you guys go out to dinner? I don't understand why you can't do everything Because it's Sunday night and I have to wake up at 5:30 am the next morning
AudaciousAudrey		#14	[-]
Posts: 28595 (08/06/2009 7:26 PM) Biggest Know It All '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	IHeartDrDorian wrote: AudaciousAudrey wrote: If I was having a party I would expect my friends to bring their boyfriends. It's weird to expect everyone to come alone. Maybe she was implying the both of you when she said "I'd really like for you to stop by." So would I... But I really don't think that it was a "you" implying me and him - because when I asked her once if he could come to this thing at a BAR, just out of courtesy, she was like "I'd really rather have him not come." (which actually pissed me off but whatever) Wtf? I would either show up with him or not show up at all. I hate when my friends are having social gatherings and try to pick and choose who can bring their boyfriend. Is it her bday or something?
ARODsgirl13		#15	[-]
Posts: 2145 (08/06/2009 7:27 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Who has a party on a Sunday night? Like really? I'd mock her for that number 1 and number 2, you already made plans you really aren't in the wrong if you don't show up to her little get together (sorry I'm getting so heated but this girl sounds like one of my friends that I can't stand sometimes)
EJFiederer		#16	[-]
Posts: 13702 (08/06/2009 7:27 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	You're busy anyway. I wouldn't worry about it. You haven't seen your boyfriend in a while. Enjoy the time with just him.
Momobobo		#17	[-]
Posts: 11487 (08/06/2009 7:28 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Either you jjbers use the term "friend" VERY loosely, or you people are just fucked up. Your friend is having a party and doesn't want you to bring your boyfriend? Does she not like him? Will other boys be there?
IHeartDrDorian		#18	[-]
Posts: 10313 (08/06/2009 7:30 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	ITA Audrey. Unless it's a "girl's night" I always tell my friends that their boyfriends are welcomed. I really don't have an issue with it - even when I was single. Like whatever. I went out to dinner with my friend and her boyfriend before and it was fine! We all had a good time. And it's not even like she can say he's an asshole, because she doesn't even know him! And I have never once said anything bad about him to her. My boyfriend thinks that she just might be jealous. So I don't get the whole prejudgement. ARODs - maybe we all have friends like this. I just hate how she's trying to make me feel guilty about not coming.
KristinWasBanned		#19	[-]
Posts: 1759 (08/06/2009 7:30 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Ask if you can bring your boyfriend. If she says no, tell her you can't make it.
IHeartDrDorian		#20	[-]
Posts: 10314 (08/06/2009 7:31 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Momobobo wrote: Either you jjbers use the term "friend" VERY loosely, or you people are just fucked up. Your friend is having a party and doesn't want you to bring your boyfriend? Does she not like him? Will other boys be there? I have no idea if she doesn't like him. If she doesn't, she has no reason to considering she hasn't had a conversation with him. And yes there will be other guys there.

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