AudaciousAudrey wrote:I agree with all this. Again, it's not as though this employee was speaking to newspapers and newscasts saying "I work for _______ _______, at 123 Sunshine and Cuddles Avenue, and she beats children and makes them eat dirt for lunch". No slandering or defamation occurred, and the only one who overstepped their bounds was you.
tackyblueeyeshadow wrote:That's an excellent point. Your mom hired her to help her run a daycare, not to be her best friend.
My dad is a business owner. I've heard people talking about him and his company plenty of times. So what? When you're in the position of employing people, you have to assume that they're not always going to think you're awesome and that every decision you make is fantastic. That's life. If you're too thin skinned to shrug off people saying shit about you, you're too thin skinned to run a business.
FYI-Don't trash talk your boss in public.
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Posts: 3406 (08/29/2009 2:25 PM) |
Working in a daycare is hard work. I did for two years and felt I made no money for the work I did. There were many times I was left alone with 15-20 two year
olds by myself or 25 9-12 year olds (it was wrong but we were always short)! I can't say I blame you for telling, since it is your mom. But maybe she did
have a hard day at work and needed to vent.
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Posts: 3378 (08/29/2009 2:56 PM) |
maybe its just me and the fact that i dont get along with my mom at all, but i wouldnt have said anything at all to my mother. i think its just being an
immature tattletale.
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Posts: 4288 (08/29/2009 3:23 PM) |
I always get nervous when I am shit talking someone in public, incase i run into them or someone they know
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Posts: 5673 (08/29/2009 3:30 PM) |
cheddarcheese2 wrote:Me too
I don't blame you for telling your mom, I would have too since I'm close with my mom. I didn't read this whole thread, but I hope your mom isn't bothered too much by it since pretty much everybody complains about their bosses no matter what. I absolutely love my boss, but I definitely do my fair share of complaining about her too. And also, I hope your mom doesn't mention anything to the girl about this situation because that could just be awkward for both of them. |
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Posts: 638 (08/29/2009 4:02 PM) |
1glitter1 wrote: Me too, maybe a friend or some relative I wouldnt say anything, but if my mom is getting trashed I want her to know |
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Posts: 5803 (08/29/2009 4:13 PM) |
I don't tell friends or family who has been talking shit about them. It serves no purpose except adding to the drama. And I'd rather friends/family not
tell me who's talking shit about me. The fact is that everyone talks about everyone and there's really nothing you can do about it. Human nature, baby.
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Posts: 1100 (08/29/2009 4:16 PM) |
You were sitting next to her, not like she was at work talking shit while yelling 50 ft away. I am totally against talking about people at all costs, but at
least she did it outside of work time which is truly the appropriate time to discuss things like that. However, as a daughter I would feel hurt for my mom.
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Posts: 31393 (08/29/2009 4:19 PM) Chris Fanatic '03 |
I can understand you saying something because it was your mother, but it wasn't your place to put someone elses job at risk. Everyone blows off steam about
their workplace every now and then, but you don't expect some rat listening in on you.
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Posts: 12026 (08/29/2009 4:23 PM) |
I didn't put her job at risk. I doubt my mom will say anything to her, and if she does, she won't fire her over it. My mom has never fired anyone, and
she's been in management rolls as long as I can remember. And I wasn't being a rat listening in, she was right behind me talking loudly. I couldn't
help but hear her.
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Posts: 2787 (08/29/2009 4:37 PM) |
While people do vent about their jobs all of the time, it is still unprofessional- especially in public. You never know who you are around.
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Posts: 7112 (08/29/2009 5:05 PM) |
Sorry but if I ever heard anyone saying anything about my parents in a public setting - I wouldn't have just sat there and listened. But that's on the
personal level.
As to what she was venting about - she was VENTING. We all do it. Wasn't your place to tell your Mom. It's not like she said your Mom was a raging cunt and hated her. She was bitching about work related things. |
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Posts: 20277 (08/29/2009 5:07 PM) JJB Smartass '09
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Aprilily05 wrote: It's unprofessional to vent? GTFO with that dumb shit. 
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Posts: 4922 (08/29/2009 5:07 PM) |
I don't feel sorry for the girl. If she was stupid enough to talk shit in public then let her have egg on her face. I would have told my mom but there is
nothing I hate more then 2 faced bitches.
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Posts: 7901 (08/29/2009 5:16 PM) |
As to what she was venting about - she was VENTING. We all do it. Wasn't your place to tell your Mom. It's not like she said your Mom was a raging cunt and hated her. She was bitching about work related things. This. She wasn't talking shit about your mom, she was venting about her job/boss (who happens to be your mom). It's hard to not take it personal, but personal/professional are always kept seperate. |
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Posts: 3285 (08/29/2009 5:18 PM) |
Julez wrote:It's not two-faced to vent about a shitty day. |
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Posts: 15431 (08/29/2009 5:19 PM) |
futuremrsfitz wrote:I think anyone would've done the same thing if an employee was talking shit about their mom. I know I would, and I'm someone that doesn't meddle in people's business. All the rules change if someone's messing with Mom! |
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Posts: 347 (08/29/2009 5:22 PM) |
tackyblueeyeshadow wrote:Exactly. I think the funniest part about this is how blind you are to your own bias. Of course you think she's lying because she was saying negative things about your own mother. It's possible she's exaggerating slightly but why would she take the time to blantantly lie to a personal friend over dinner about her employer? Most people don't lie to that extent unless it is for some personal benefit. I can't imagine anyone doing that in a private conversation with a friend. Of course you think your mom is great. You should pull your head out of your ass and come to grips with the fact that people besides you and your sister think otherwise whether you agree with it or not. Has the thought ever occurred to you that a LOT of people don't like their supervisors and vent to friends about them outside of work? Unless this girl is bad mouthing your mom to customers, vendors or other employees, it's not any of your god damn business what she says on her own time in a private conversation. As a manager, I know for a fact that some of the people that work for me don't like me. But I don't give a shit. I don't pay them to like me, I pay them to do a good job. As long as they are respectful at work and do a good job, that is really all I care about. If you can't deal with people not liking you, management is not for you. Hopefully your mom has a spine. |
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Posts: 3286 (08/29/2009 5:22 PM) |
MeParley wrote:I wouldn't have mentioned it to my mom. Things that shouldn't effect people, I don't bother telling, thus, this is just a girl who works for "Mom", not someone of the utmost importance. |
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Posts: 20281 (08/29/2009 5:29 PM) JJB Smartass '09
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TequilaMockingbird wrote: Basically. |
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