Would you have gotten married if you were her?

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OhManImScrewed		#41	[-]
Posts: 17754 (09/17/2009 3:59 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Why are you getting so defensive? Shit. We all know what you were getting at. Not many people are going to say yes to what you had to say. So just take people's answers and then go back to minding your business, because you really have no say in the matter anyway.
Kappaxgirl		#42	[-]
Posts: 291 (09/17/2009 4:02 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	OhManImScrewed wrote: Why are you getting so defensive? Shit. We all know what you were getting at. Not many people are going to say yes to what you had to say. So just take people's answers and then go back to minding your business, because you really have no say in the matter anyway. The only person I am getting offensive with is Too EXTRM for saying I sounded superior to her and saying that I'm no better than my friend
SwanGeese		#43	[-]
Posts: 6306 (09/17/2009 4:02 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	There are a lucky few that find the right person on the first try. My brother married his high school girlfriend. And there is no set time formula. My parents started discussing marriage on their third date, got married six months later, and have been happily married now for over thirty years. Sometimes it just feels right.
tackyblueeyeshadow		#44	[-]
Posts: 7840 (09/17/2009 4:04 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I basically did the same thing. Worked for me.
ALR83		#45	[-]
Posts: 53389 (09/17/2009 4:08 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Kappaxgirl wrote: ALR83 wrote: But what if, even though he's the first and only, he's the right guy? Is she supposed to break up with him and date around to find out if he was the right one? What if he moved on and she realized after dating a couple of guys that she should have stayed with him? If you know or feels it's right then go with it regardless of how many guys you have or have not dated before him. I get what you're saying, and I'm not trying to be rude since this is my friend but how could you know he was the "one" when she has nothing, not even 1 other relationship, to compare it with? It just baffles me that she got married so fast when it was her first serious relationship. You would think that she would've at least waited until graduating to get married, what's the rush? That's why I think it had something to do with most of her friends getting engaged or married and wanted to be apart of the "married" group. I also get what you're saying, but why do you need to date other guys to know if the first one is the one? It can really go both ways I guess, but I just personally don't believe in needing to date around if you feel like the first guy is it. Why go into thinking, "Well I really love this guy and I think he's the one. But I guess since I've only dated him I should break up wth him, go date and sleep with other guys, and then decide." That makes no sense to me. Why pass up something you know is good when it's so hard to come by in the first place? VelvetRope11 wrote: When you know it's the one, it's the one. No matter what economic situation, or whathaveyou, if they're both willing to support, love, care and be responsible for/to their marriage, as well as be faithful and loving - who's to say what they are doing is wrong. Some of us are waiting for mr. right, some of us are waiting to be more established to get married, some don't want to get married at all, and there are those who just know this is that big "it" and get married. Nothing wrong with that as long as the paragraph above is met. I feel the same way, obviously lol.
Semirhage626		#46	[-]
Posts: 7516 (09/17/2009 5:11 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Mistress Darcy wrote: You did say she is just jumping on the bandwagon because her friends are getting married like it was the only reason she got married. That is kind of insulting-I wouldn't want a friend thinking I was that dumb and easily swayed.
nicksdolphin		#47	[-]
Posts: 20553 (09/17/2009 5:13 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	No. I have a lot of friends that fall/fell into that category too. I grew up in a small town in the south so they're all having wedding fever from 18-25. I'm trying to stay as far away from a white dress as I can during the years. haha
SharrywasBanned		#48	[-]
Posts: 845 (09/17/2009 5:16 PM) JJB Devil '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	If I was like you described that girl, I probably would and due to those reasons.
orangepeel19		#49	[-]
Posts: 14810 (09/17/2009 5:19 PM) Friendliest JJBer '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Nah I take my time with things.
BweeUTeful		#50	[-]
Posts: 3104 (09/17/2009 5:35 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	If I loved the guy and felt like it was what I wanted to do, then yes. Plenty of people have made it getting married young, inexperienced and broke. It seriously isn't your place to judge. It isn't your relationship. Your place is to be her friend. Be happy if she's happy, support her if something goes wrong.
Lyric762		#51	[-]
Posts: 1596 (09/17/2009 6:24 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	BweeUTeful wrote: If I loved the guy and felt like it was what I wanted to do, then yes. Plenty of people have made it getting married young, inexperienced and broke. It seriously isn't your place to judge. It isn't your relationship.Your place is to be her friend. Be happy if she's happy, support her if something goes wrong. Please like you people have never judged a friend or family member for a relationship they had been in? I love how JJB is a bunch of hypocrites
Angelpopstar7		#52	[-]
Posts: 29851 (09/17/2009 6:28 PM) News Editor Reply Quote More Recent Posts	My mom did that. My dad was the first guy she dated. They dated for like 5 months, had a 6 month engagement (something close to that anyways. They knew each other less than a year when they got married) and they'll be celebrating their 28th wedding anniversary in October.
butterflysnest		#53	[-]
Posts: 627 (09/17/2009 6:28 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	As long as they are both supporting themselves, and love each other why shouldn't they be married? Do you think he's not good enough for her, or what? Are you jealous because she found her husband on the first try? If you're her friend I think you should spend more time being happy for her and less time judging her choices.
tp 09 in the house		#54	[-]
Posts: 1378 (09/17/2009 6:32 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	ugh rabies wrote: No, but who would say yes with the way you wrote it? No kidding. You could've presented the facts in a neutral way if you really wanted opinions. Income shouldn't be a factor in this situation either. But that being said I wouldn't get married to the first person I dated or even the first serious relationship either.
chocolatemama88		#55	[-]
Posts: 10158 (09/17/2009 6:33 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I mean, I wouldn't. But when it's right, it's right.
XOctoberMoonX		#56	[-]
Posts: 2705 (09/17/2009 6:34 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I think that if she's happy, that's all that matters. I know two girls who got married to their first boyfriend. They're happy so I don't think it matters if I would do it or not. I got married to my husband 9 months after I met him. He definitely wasn't my first boyfriend, but I KNEW we would be good together. I still had 2 years of college left and we've stuggled a bit financially but now, 4 years later, we're just as happy together as when we first got married. We've had tests in our marriage that we overcame and it just stregthened our bond. So I also don't think rushing into a marriage is nessicarily a bad thing. It depends on the people involved. Everyone is different. And I think in life happiness is what matters. Will they work out? Who knows. But if this is what makes her happy at this point in her life, then I think she made a good decision. Edited By: XOctoberMoonX 09/17/2009 6:36 PM. Edited 1 times.
VelvetRope11		#57	[-]
Posts: 31700 (09/17/2009 6:37 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Lyric762 wrote: BweeUTeful wrote: If I loved the guy and felt like it was what I wanted to do, then yes. Plenty of people have made it getting married young, inexperienced and broke. It seriously isn't your place to judge. It isn't your relationship.Your place is to be her friend. Be happy if she's happy, support her if something goes wrong. Please like you people have never judged a friend or family member for a relationship they had been in? I love how JJB is a bunch of hypocrites To be fair though, we mostly judge the blatently bad or headed that direction relationships ...or the relationships that are wrong (i.e side piece relationships). With this situation (by someone who's only met the groom once), the detials to not reflect the state of the relationship itself, just the socio-economic conditions which they got married under.
Nneecolee		#58	[-]
Posts: 10389 (09/17/2009 6:43 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	It's not the most traditional move, but your friend is happy, why criticize her? Plenty of people get married after they get their finance and education settled, but statistics show that they aren't immune from failed marriages.
OCcaligirl		#59	[-]
Posts: 6166 (09/17/2009 6:49 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	When its right its right. No judgement needed. My brother and sister in law were in a very similar situation. They are extremely happy.
jessnjc		#60	[-]
Posts: 2396 (09/17/2009 6:55 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I was in the same situation. I met my husband in February of 2006. Our first date was May 9, 2006. We got engaged on January 14, 2007 and married May 12, 2007. We are going through a situation right now, but we will come out the other side stronger and more in love than ever. Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship besides the two people in the relationship. It doesn't matter if somebody is around them all the time or not, they still don't truly know what is going on with the couple.

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