I would suggest that, if you're in to him enough to become "exclusive," you have a conversation with him about the ex. If you truly feel he's
just biding time to get her back, he's not worth your time. If it's a situation where they are and will only ever be JUST friends, I think you should
lay down some ground rules. Again...this is only speaking as "the ex-girlfriend" who just lost her best friend. Everyone is different.
am i overreacting?
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Posts: 4133 (09/21/2009 1:48 AM) |
I have been in your shoes and you are not overreacting. All I can say is get out now. If you feel this way about her already it will only get worse and worse.
My ex was friends with his ex and by the end of it I was so torn up and insecure and jealous that I hated myself. And there was nothing going on between them and there still isn't but that sick feeling will always be there. If you tell him how you feel he will say you're crazy and it'll just push him away and if you keep it to yourself their relationship will slowly drive you insane. I wish I had a better answer but yeah... RUN! I am also a firm believer in my gut and my gut always told me that he was still in love with her and like you I don't like playing second fiddle to other women so I had to end it. Maybe that is what your gut is telling you, too.
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Posts: 714 (09/21/2009 2:02 AM) |
Grrr, guys are such liars!!! A guy doesn't spend half the day with a girl unless he's
interested in her! Especially an ex!
And for those who will come in after this and say, "No, that's not true! A guy can be just friends with an ex girlfriend!" You're kidding yourselves. Guys think with their penis', and this guys action speaks louder than words. After 6 months, I would of already had a talk with the guy to see where the relationship was going. And what a dumbass for writing it on his Twitter for you to see. 
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Posts: 2711 (09/21/2009 3:58 AM) |
JcURoCMySoX wrote: Since I highly doubt you know ALL the guys in the world, that's a bold statement to say ALL guys cannot have a friendship with an ex. Because I know for a fact they can. |
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Posts: 23646 (09/21/2009 4:05 AM) |
JcURoCMySoX wrote:And this is why women shouldn't be allowed to vote. |
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Posts: 1322 (09/21/2009 8:05 AM) |
AlfTheGreat wrote: I'm in the same situation. My ex and I broke up 5 years ago and his new gf can't stand me - she thinks I only want in his pants. It *is* possible to be friends after a breakup. I would talk about it first |
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Posts: 7761 (09/21/2009 8:25 AM) |
You said you've been seeing each other for 6 months now but there is nothing official... well personally I think it's long enough to make it something
official at least to say you are officially girlfriend and boyfriend. And to be honest, I don't think I'd like it one bit if a guy I was seeing for 6
months was hanging out with his previous girlfriend. I'd try hard not to show any jealousy but I'd let him know it bothers me and ask how he'd feel
if I then hung out with my ex-boyfriend all day.
I think it's time to take the bull by the horns so to speak, and sit him down and ask where he thinks this relationship is at. |
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Posts: 14043 (09/21/2009 8:40 AM) |
I don't think you are overreating either. You've been hanging out with this guy for a while now. It's not like it's only been a couple of weeks
or only one month, it's been over half a year. He dated his ex for 4 yrs and is still hanging out with her...means he is confused/doesn't know what he
wants. He likes you, but he misses her. Pretty typical. I'll stand by what I always say that guys and girls can never be simply just friends..there is
always some other bs going on, even if it's one-sided and the other person doesn't know about it. I could never and would never be friends with my ex
because a)I still have feelings for him and b)his gf would throw a fit.
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Posts: 3761 (09/21/2009 8:53 AM) |
did he text you back again?
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Posts: 810 (09/21/2009 8:59 AM) |
JcURoCMySoX wrote: Someone's bitter! 
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