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 IWannaRockJustinsBody |
What if someone DOES object to someone's wedding |
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Posts: 7064 (09/27/2009 11:03 AM) |
and decides not to forever hold their peace? Is there a certain protocol for what would happen or do they just speak their mind and the wedding continues?
I'm just curious. I've been to a lot of weddings and no one's ever stood up and objected so I was wondering why that part is even in there if no one ever does it. |
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Posts: 17099 (09/27/2009 11:05 AM) |
I don't think there's a "protocol" like a fire drill or something. I think they just say what they want and the couple can decide what they
want to do. However, if I was in the crowd, I'd just think that guy's an ass.
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Posts: 7805 (09/27/2009 11:15 AM) |
I think it's there because marriage is advised that it is not a matter you wanna take lightly and if it's not the person before you that you love and
rather someone else, well that person needs to clear the air on all sides, bride, groom, witnesses, etc. I feel like it's the opportunity to challenge the
truth of the matrimony. Sort of like a last call...do you really want it, cause if you don't you have one chance left to back out.
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ugh rabies |
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Posts: 484 (09/27/2009 11:17 AM) |
I wouldn't even allow the "speak now" portion if it was my own wedding. I don't care if anyone objects and I'm not giving anyone the
opening.
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insomniachollie |
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Posts: 41474 (09/27/2009 11:25 AM) Best Fan Fic Writer '08 |
It was there originally for people to throw up legal grounds for the marriage not to go ahead - pre-contracts to someone else (which were binding), affinity,
etc. These days it's pretty irrelevant, unless somebody comes bursting in to announce that the groom is a bigamist or something
I think they just get to say their piece but unless it would legally invalidate the marriage then the bride and groom just get to decide what they want to do |
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Posts: 17350 (09/27/2009 11:30 AM) |
seems like anything really valid could have been brought up before the wedding day. so anyone waiting until the couple is at the altar is likely more
interested in drama and attention. Anything they have to say should be heard in private and not announced for everyone to hear.
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insomniachollie |
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Posts: 41476 (09/27/2009 11:32 AM) Best Fan Fic Writer '08 |
^^
My sentiments exactly |
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Posts: 13751 (09/27/2009 11:36 AM) |
Do they even ask that anymore? I went to 4 weddings this summer and they never asked that.
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Posts: 3324 (09/27/2009 11:45 AM) |
I refused to go to the wedding to show my protest.
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 BlackStilettos |
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Posts: 27480 (09/27/2009 12:02 PM) JJB Fashionista '09
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I was in a wedding recently as a maid of honor, and the pastor did ask if anyone had any objections. In fact, he asked three times, and waited a minute after
each time.
 It was very, very awkward, and all of us (the bridal party
and the guests) kept looking at each other like, wtf is going on?. It was such a bizarre ceremony. Oy. I'm guessing the pastor had some doubts about
the couple.
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Posts: 1483 (09/27/2009 12:09 PM) |
Well I guess if someone said "The bride/groom is already married" and had some kind of legal documentation proving it that might stop the wedding...
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Kwis77 |
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Posts: 19353 (09/27/2009 12:16 PM) |
I think the person doing the ceremony, at least if it's in a church, is then expected to make the decision of whether or not he can perform the ceremony,
based on the information, or he pulls them aside and asks them if they want to go on after the drama has taken place.
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madduxgirl |
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Posts: 1228 (09/27/2009 5:43 PM) |
ugh rabies wrote:We had that taken out at our wedding. If this was to happen with my preacher he will not marry the couple on that day. I do not think there is any rule about it. I think it is up to the person performing the ceremony. |
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Mistress Darcy |
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Posts: 11554 (09/27/2009 5:46 PM) |
The only time I have ever heard of this happening ever the protocol was to take the couple and person in a back room and discuss the matter. It was dismissed
because it has to be something legal why they cannot marry. It cannot be "they aren't good for each other" or some other reason like that.
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Posts: 15615 (09/27/2009 5:48 PM) |
That's so soap opera, though- to wait until the couple is standing at the altar, about to say ''I do''. If someone feels THAT strongly that
the marriage shouldn't happen, they should take it up with the bride and/or groom, BEFORE the wedding, in private.
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Stellar003 |
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Posts: 429 (09/27/2009 5:49 PM) |
I haven't been to a wedding in a couple of years & can't remember if they ever asked this.
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Nicks Twinkie |
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Posts: 437 (09/27/2009 6:06 PM) |
BlackStilettos wrote:After each time, was the pastor like, "Are you SURE there aren't any objections?"
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Posts: 16187 (09/27/2009 6:06 PM) |
I don't feel like I've ever been to a wedding where they have asked that.
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Posts: 26731 (09/27/2009 6:32 PM) |
Nicks Twinkie - Or was it like "Really? No one has ANY objections whatsoever? I mean really? Everyone wants them to get married?"
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Posts: 5746 (09/27/2009 6:50 PM) |
I'd protest my sister's wedding, only because she's stupid and the guy she is with is a cheating douche.
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LuvBug |
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Posts: 6051 (09/27/2009 6:53 PM) |
If I object I just wont go. I hate my moms finance and if they actually get married I wont go.
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