Is it unhealthy to NEVER fight with your boyfriend?

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Bunninator	Is it unhealthy to NEVER fight with your boyfriend?	Lead	[-]
Posts: 1333 (10/19/2009 10:33 PM) TMI JJBer '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I've never had one situation where I've fought with my boyfriend. I'll get frustrated/irritated sometimes and so will he but I've never been ANGRY at him really. Is that seriously abnormal? Howard Stern talks about how he never fights with his wife and they had a therapist come in and say that it's unhealthy/unusual. Could it be just that stuff we would potentially fight about hasn't come up yet in the relationship?
TealaB		#1	[-]
Posts: 2091 (10/19/2009 10:36 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	How long have you been together? I swear my BF and I didn't fight ONCE during hte first year of our relationship - though we more than made up for it in years 2 and 3 Now, after 6.5 years, I think we fight a 'reasonable' amount, whatever that means
Kwis77		#2	[-]
Posts: 19769 (10/19/2009 10:36 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I think it's only not healthy when someone in the relationship is being a push over and not sharing any of their frustrations. But if you're communicating well, you don't really need to argue to get your point across.
madamelepetite		#3	[-]
Posts: 4238 (10/19/2009 10:37 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Wow that therapist sounds like a bit of an idiot. I think its wonderful that you've found someone you connect with so well. Of course its normal to get frustrated/irritated with eachother, but thats great that it never escalates.
jeepchic20		#4	[-]
Posts: 16329 (10/19/2009 10:37 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I think its abnormal if you get frustrated/irritated about the same thing time and time again and never say anything about it. Holding it in can make for an eventual explosion and then here comes the fight. I think it's healthy to disagree, and argue within reason as long as both of you are willing to apologize or take blame at some point. I think it's unhealthy to argue just for the sake of arguing. And yes it could be that eventually you both will fight over something, just hasn't came around yet.
celebtrashwhore		#5	[-]
Posts: 7630 (10/19/2009 10:37 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Arent you like still in hs? You should be having a fun carefree relationship.
Bunninator		#6	[-]
Posts: 1334 (10/19/2009 10:39 PM) TMI JJBer '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	We are. I love him and I want to marry him. We've been together for 4 years.
Bunninator		#7	[-]
Posts: 1335 (10/19/2009 10:40 PM) TMI JJBer '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	And friends for longer than that.
raWrr222		#8	[-]
Posts: 2475 (10/19/2009 10:43 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	After almost 5 years with the BF, we've never had a serious argument. I'll get annoyed at times, but it never lasts long. And he says that he never has been angry or annoyed at me. I definitely think that since we know each other so well and communicate well that there really isn't anything to be angry about. And it's not like we're not angry type of people either, we get mad, but not at each other. I don't think its unhealthy at all. And there will be stuff that'll come up, I guess some couples cope differently.
OhManImScrewed		#9	[-]
Posts: 18066 (10/19/2009 11:00 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I won't lie, I've been screaming knock out PISSED at my boyfriend before during some fights. But it's OK because we know how to work through it. I don't think fighting (a reasonable amount) or not fighting makes a relationship any better than the next. It's just how people deal with things. I know it doesn't mean OH NO, we can't be together we fight! Because I have gotten flaming mad at my family too, but we still love each other and got over it and moved on. If whatever you are doing works for you, that's fine.

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