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Posts: 5640 (10/27/2009 12:05 AM) |
Lets Hug It Out wrote:Hit it right on the nail, Ari. 
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raratwentyfour |
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Posts: 4248 (10/27/2009 1:11 AM) |
NickelodeonSucksLoL wrote: This is so weird. We are an interracial couple and I have had to correct him on a few occassions. I wasn't talking about that particular one - that was more of ignorance than malice.  The one I was talking about - I guess I
can narrow it down to insecurity and anger/negative issues. He's seriously wounded - that's whats so sad. I truly want the best for him and I know
he's hurting. But I'm seriously tired. And tired of being tired.
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10/27/2009 1:17 AM.
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femme0622 |
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Posts: 1852 (10/27/2009 9:17 AM) |
The 2 year anniversary of my divorce was in September. I, too have a daughter, but she was just over a year old when we separated and really doesn't know
life with us as a unit full time. That, I expect, will be the hardest part of your transition. But you CAN get through it, I promise!! I look at where I was in
February of 2007 and compare that to the woman I am now and cannot believe the difference. You're pouring valuable energy into a man who's taking it,
not willing to get himself help and it's taking energy from your daughter; even if that's not apparent yet. You'll be not only a better person for
yourself, but a better mother for your daughter if you do whatever is best to get you and she taken care of. It isn't easy, not by a long shot and there
are days where I feel completely overwhelmed...but it is also worth it and the best thing he could have ever done for me was to leave. You'll make it,
sweets!!
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raratwentyfour |
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Posts: 4257 (10/27/2009 4:30 PM) |
Thanks femme! This really is a big help everyone. Thanks for sharing your stories. I have so much to figure out...
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KobesPrincess1982 |
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Posts: 3103 (10/27/2009 4:36 PM) |
I went through a really horrible divorce a year and a half ago. JJB actually helped me through it! You might be able to still find the old posts.
Anyways, hardest time of my life but turned out to be the best thing to ever happen! Its hard but you will get through it. Even if it doesn't seem like it now. When he first kicked me out, I thought there was no way I'd ever be able to have a normal life again but I do and its so much better. Let me know if you need to talk! |
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seaner23 |
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Posts: 12864 (10/27/2009 4:49 PM) Best Male '09
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i slept on it and i actually did have some advice. i know right now it seems like the hardest decision in the world. you have so many questions...where do i go
from here...where will you live, can you pay the bills, will you be alone for the rest of your life? will anybody ever love me again...all sorts of feelings.
granted some of them are things you do need to figure out, but trust me. 6 months go by...1 year goes by...2 years go by...5 years...10 years...it's just a
distant memory. i know circumstances are different since you have a child so you're kinda "stuck" (for lack of a better word) with this guy in
your life in some way, shape or form for many years but...things always will and do get better.
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