That's a nice message from the aunt but I read your MIL's manipulation all over that e-mail.
I AM SO F'ING ANNOYED*Ur Never gonna believe..
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 jeepchic20 |
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RandomnessRocks22 |
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Posts: 12580 (11/05/2009 3:53 PM) Most Random '08 |
MandsLB8 wrote:Serioulsy Mands cancel the trip and go at a different time. If its possible go earlier than planned. |
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 NsYnC FaN 364 |
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Posts: 8564 (11/05/2009 3:54 PM) |
MandsLB8 wrote:thats demeaning. I would be so livid with this entire situation right now. |
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SharrywasBanned |
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Posts: 2065 (11/05/2009 3:54 PM) JJB Devil '09
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She is still getting her way and is going, that woman DOESN'T get it!
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Kwis77 |
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Posts: 20108 (11/05/2009 3:54 PM) |
Awe
  at that.
Your MIL is probably hurt, yeah, but she also really threw on the guilt. 
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RandomnessRocks22 |
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Posts: 12581 (11/05/2009 3:54 PM) Most Random '08 |
jeepchic20 wrote: I agree. Don't fall for this shit Mand's. Go on the trip earlier than planned. |
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ru4serious |
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Posts: 2223 (11/05/2009 3:54 PM) |
Now she's bringing other people in the conversation? And what does Aunt Jen think her husband would say? He probably thinks MIL is a bitch too and would
probably agree that she needs to sit down.
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Mistress Darcy |
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Posts: 12355 (11/05/2009 3:57 PM) |
NsYnC FaN 364 wrote:Yeah I  at that line. It seems mocking the fact that she
wants time alone with her husband and daughter before the new baby comes.
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MandsLB8 |
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Posts: 5996 (11/05/2009 3:58 PM) |
Well, Aunt Jen is kind of out there.. and always sees the best in people. Mrs. is resentful that I get along with her so well (when joey passed adriana and I
were over there everyday for 2 months straight.. they live two roads away) and Adriana started calling her grandma too because her cousin does. That really
threw her thru a loop. I think she even cried over it.
I know how that phone call went. Aunt Jen tried to call and explain how I feel and Mrs. knows that we're close so she tried acting like it was a big misunderstanding and that she's totally fine with us being alone. And Aunt Jen was like.. "ohhh yeah! I knew that's how you felt.. okay, I'll tell her" |
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JCcai |
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Posts: 245 (11/05/2009 3:59 PM) |
Even if they were to go to a counseling session, I'm pretty sure that the MIL would have the Psychologist completely hosed and putting down Mands. People
like MIL are master manipulators and the ultimate victims-- there is no beating them in their own game. They just to need to draw the line stand their ground
TOGETHER. "Kelly" already has been hosed, and she can't even allow her husband to hear the conversation? I guess the husband is a
"flake" because he probably wouldn't stand for it.
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amyfo |
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Posts: 19381 (11/05/2009 3:59 PM) Joey Fanatic '08 |
RandomnessRocks22 wrote:I know that sounds like a great idea, but it is really immature and will only cause more problems for Mands. Not to mention the additional cost of changing flights. |
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GiRrOcKs621 |
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Posts: 1049 (11/05/2009 4:00 PM) |
MandsLB8 wrote:THAT would piss me off so much. How freakin' condensending. |
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YesItsTrue07 |
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Posts: 6228 (11/05/2009 4:00 PM) |
They love playing up the love angle. This isn't about love. This isn't about Deb/Jen/whoever else that wasn't initially invited being excited about
the trip. This is about the MIL's incredible ability to be so self absorbed and lack self awareness. That she as a mother/wife/woman refuses to allow her
dil to experience life as a mother/wife/woman without her involvement and input. As someone else stated let them know the guilt trips and emotional blackmail
are not working.
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MandsLB8 |
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Posts: 5997 (11/05/2009 4:01 PM) |
ru4serious wrote: Yeah.. that's EXACTLY it! Mark kept telling Jen "Jennifer- don't go! I know Debbie says it's fine, but this is the kids trip. Kelly needs to be away from you too". And then when Mrs. found out that that was his stance on it she said "Mark's just jealous that he's not going and that he can't have Jennifer all to himself". 
Honestly, it's times like this when I thank GOD for JJB because I really, truthfully, 110% feel like I'm in the twilight zone. |
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nlove05 |
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Posts: 1401 (11/05/2009 4:02 PM) |
What part of you are not welcome and not invited do they not understand? I really think you should go see a counselor as a family. It won't change the
MIL's mind but at least your husband might see the light and grow a pair.
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amyfo |
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Posts: 19382 (11/05/2009 4:02 PM) Joey Fanatic '08 |
Random question that maybe you already answered. What is the family business? I'm trying to figure out why it is ok to have the business pay for MIL to
come on this vacation.
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MandsLB8 |
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Posts: 5998 (11/05/2009 4:03 PM) |
I really don't think anything wrong about Aunt Jen and her message.. she's just trying to make it better and make me feel like Mrs. is fine with
everything because Mrs. has her wrapped around her little finger.
Actually fat finger but whatever. |
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iheartblue |
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Posts: 11672 (11/05/2009 4:04 PM) |
Like I said yesterday, people in this family need to grow balls. If she's doing this to you now and seeing no problem with it (and getting away with it),
you think when your daughter is 13 she won't be manipulating her too?
She totally will, my grandmother is just like this lady. She manipulated the hell out of me growing up and when I got to be old enough to fight back I put a stop to that crap, cause my mom didn't do anything either. Personally, I'm glad that I stood up for myself and all, but still. That's not fair for her to have to go through until she gets old enough to hopefully stop it. Cause the manipulation isn't going to stop with you & your husband. |
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KayleeKay |
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Posts: 1421 (11/05/2009 4:05 PM) |
Can I please call your MIL and inform her she's not coming? Seriously, someone has to tell her.
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MandsLB8 |
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Posts: 5999 (11/05/2009 4:06 PM) |
Courtney- no can do on Cali- his psycho brother and Mrs. sister live there. We do work out there too.
The reason the business can pay for them going is because we do work in Orlando too.. The MIL is on their payroll as a consultant because she can't budget her buy out money. While Adriana and Joey take their naps during the day before we go to the parks, Adam is going to go out and quality check a few of the houses. |
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