Should I apologize?
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soapoperaqueen5 |
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Posts: 614 (11/06/2009 11:55 AM) |
I've never posted anything before about my life, but I just needed an opinion on something. My sister came over the other day with my niece and her and
my mom got into an argument. They have always argued since I was little and I get fed up with it. I knew that if I told them to stop it and be quiet that
somehow I would be put in on the argument because i awlays do , so I sent my niece to tell them that I said to be quiet. My sister got angry with me and she
took my niece and told her that they wouldn't be be coming back. Anyway, the next day I was supposed to pick my niece up from school because my sister
works, and I pick her up from school 3 days a week. She called and told me that she would pick her up from school. I got upset because I know she was just
trying to hurt me, so I told her that it was fine and that I would pick her up. She finally said okay and then she calls back and says "on second
thought I'll just pick her up." I asked her what was wrong with her and that I didn't do anything, and she just screamed on the phone until I
finally hung up on her. She left a message on our answering machine saying she would be picking up my niece until the situation is resolved with our house.
Honestly, I just feel so bad for my niece she just always gets put middle, and my sister is always saying she's going to take her away from us when my
mom and her argue, but this time my mom doesn't think she'll be back. My question is should I just apologize to her?
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grayspeckledgoose |
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Posts: 16031 (11/06/2009 11:58 AM) |
I don't know if I'd apologize or not. Bottom line is, your sister and your mom both need to grow up.
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AudaciousAudrey |
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Posts: 33379 (11/06/2009 12:00 PM) Biggest Know It All '09
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Omg.
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Mistress Darcy |
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Posts: 12376 (11/06/2009 12:00 PM) |
How old is the niece?
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SusieMC |
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Posts: 1435 (11/06/2009 12:01 PM) |
Yes. If you want to her to keep treating you that way.
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MandsLB8 |
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Posts: 6032 (11/06/2009 12:01 PM) |
you shouldn't apologize but just tell her that you have nothing to do with her and your mom's arguments and it's not fair to you or your neice that
she's keeping you two apart because she's only hurting her.. not your mom.
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littlelondyn |
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Posts: 373 (11/06/2009 12:04 PM) |
You have no reason to apologize. But, you shouldn't have put the child in the middle of it. State your opinions yourself. Don't give them to a child.
As they say, "Don't Shoot The Messenger"....you just got her shot out of your life.
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soapoperaqueen5 |
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Posts: 615 (11/06/2009 12:05 PM) |
grayspeckledgoose, I've been waiting for them to grow to up, but they never will.
Mistress Darcy, my niece is 8. It really hurts me because I am really close to her. |
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littlelondyn |
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Posts: 374 (11/06/2009 12:07 PM) |
I just really think you should've REALLY stayed out of it. You didn't by sending the child to state your opinion.
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coboardgirl |
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Posts: 7884 (11/06/2009 12:09 PM) |
Well it sounds like your niece needs you - because your sister sounds like an unstable nut. But at the same time, apologizing to her for something you really
didn't have much to do with seems... stupid. Maybe you could apologize for sending her daughter in to tell her to stop fighting since that sounds like
something you should have done yourself.
I don't know, tough. |
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soapoperaqueen5 |
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Posts: 616 (11/06/2009 12:09 PM) |
littlelondyn, your right I shouldn't have told my niece to tell them to stop it. That was just poor judgment on my my part.
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chelley0223 |
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Posts: 10809 (11/06/2009 12:10 PM) |
You're not me are you? Though, my sister gets over it really fast. She needs me too much.
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littlelondyn |
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Posts: 376 (11/06/2009 12:10 PM) |
I'm not trying to come down hard on you. Just giving advice. Never use a child as a tool....I'm not saying that's how you meant it. I hate when my
sister and my Grandmother fight, so I know exactly where you're coming from.
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MyDadIsBruceLee |
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Posts: 1 (11/06/2009 12:12 PM) |
Your sister acted like a child
and your mother was hardly mild You should kidnap their son and go on the run and make them go really wild Signed: I'm Luke I'm 5 and my dad's Bruce Lee xoxo |
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NancyOttawa |
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Posts: 8713 (11/06/2009 12:13 PM) |
littlelondyn wrote:Ditto!! Don't under estimate the anger of a Momma Bear when protecting her cub. However, I'm sure your niece could also hear your mom and sister fighting also, and it was probably upsetting enough to her and then you tell her to go tell 2 screaming women to be quiet! Not a smart move. But only apologize for that. |
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sweeti4509 |
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Posts: 3652 (11/06/2009 12:18 PM) |
Perhaps apologize for using your niece to state your opinion, but otherwise there is no apology needed. Your sister sounds a little loony toons.
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AudaciousAudrey |
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Posts: 33381 (11/06/2009 12:21 PM) Biggest Know It All '09
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MyDadIsBruceLee wrote: hahahahha |
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iloveblueberries1979 |
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Posts: 10091 (11/06/2009 12:24 PM) |
Your sister is INCREDIBLY immature. Just wait the situation out.
It wasn't the best idea to encourage an 8 year old girl to stop a fight between two screaming adult women. But I am sure you know that now. |
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iloveblueberries1979 |
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Posts: 10091 (11/06/2009 12:24 PM) |
Your sister is INCREDIBLY immature. Just wait the situation out.
It wasn't the best idea to encourage an 8 year old girl to stop a fight between two screaming adult women. But I am sure you know that now. |
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merchasa |
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Posts: 2546 (11/06/2009 12:56 PM) |
Actually what a shame that seeing a little girl upset and wanting some peace didnt shut them both up.
Your family sounds toxic. I think you owe them nothing. I think they both owe YOU an apology for filling the years with their bullshit arguing and yelling. I hate that and I would take a stand about it to protect my niece. |
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doorear |
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Posts: 11524 (11/06/2009 1:00 PM) |
SusieMC wrote:THIS!! I recently finally stood up to my sister after years of apologizing for things and being bullied. It's a very freeing feeling. Ya gotta take a stand and stop seeking out her approval. Trust me, she'll call you when she needs you and then you can let her know how you feel. |
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