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I feel like I have to invite my roomie to everything. |
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Posts: 19287 (11/06/2009 6:13 PM) |
I don't like this feeling. I mean I love my roomie and shit but you know sometimes, I just like to go out w/ other friends. I'm goin out w/ one of my
friends and I feel the need to ask my roomie if she wants to come with (partly b/c my friend asked about her too).
Is that bad? Did/does anyone else feel this way? |
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Posts: 1059 (11/06/2009 6:15 PM) |
Why do you have to invite her? It's not necessary.
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Posts: 26575 (11/06/2009 6:15 PM) |
Hmm, tough situation. If your friend hadn't of asked about her I would say you have no obligation but since she did, I feel like you should.
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Solo Mish |
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Posts: 4968 (11/06/2009 6:17 PM) |
You shouldn't have to invite her.
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JtzCrunkster81 |
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Posts: 19288 (11/06/2009 6:19 PM) |
Now I kind of do though, since my friend asked about her! I mean I feel like if I didn't, that'd be pretty shitty. Wouldn't it?
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Samantha James |
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Posts: 17941 (11/06/2009 6:21 PM) |
Is your roommate inviting herself along or asking you if she can come?
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Posts: 471 (11/06/2009 6:22 PM) |
if she asked about her and you didn't invite...that would be shitty.
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Posts: 1780 (11/06/2009 6:24 PM) |
I feel like that sometimes too. But as of this semester, I've stopped just because I don't really care anymore. lol
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Posts: 15741 (11/06/2009 6:24 PM) |
You're really a nice roomie, OP. Your consideration will come back to you. Good karma.
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Solo Mish |
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Posts: 4975 (11/06/2009 6:29 PM) |
Why didn't your friend ask her?
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NickelodeonSucksLoL |
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Posts: 5859 (11/06/2009 6:32 PM) |
Do people normally ask about her, i.e. is she popular with your friends, or do you just invite her to be all inclusive?
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JtzCrunkster81 |
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Posts: 19290 (11/06/2009 6:32 PM) |
No, my friend asked about my roomie and at the time I said I didn't know (cause I didn't) but now she's coming w/ cause I told her about it.
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NickelodeonSucksLoL |
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Posts: 5860 (11/06/2009 6:34 PM) |
Does she not fit into your crowd of friends? Idk, but I'm sensing a deeper issue here than just the energy output of inviting someone out places.
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Just A Little Stitious |
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Posts: 14561 (11/06/2009 6:36 PM) |
I felt that way with one of my roommates, too. She was a nice girl, and I liked hanging out with her, but I also had other friends that I wanted to do stuff
with sometimes. If she knew I was getting ready to go out, she'd kind of hang around asking questions...trying to lead me into an invitation.
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BlackStilettos |
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Posts: 28006 (11/06/2009 6:42 PM) JJB Fashionista '09
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Then don't ask.
I used to have a roomie who would do that, and it was really annoying. I had no interest in going out with her or her friends, and
though I was lonely at the time, I still didn't care to go out with her.
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JtzCrunkster81 |
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Posts: 19292 (11/06/2009 6:43 PM) |
No I just invite her to be inclusive, so she's not sitting at home! But we also hang out together too. And now she's friends w/ my a couple of my
friends b/c I introduced them (which is cool). I don't go out THAT often but when I do, I invite her. Oh and there's no deeper issue. Stop trying to
read into it like that
I don't want to feel like I have to include her with everything I do...if that makes sense. Okay, I know that sounds hella mean but I swear I'm not trying to be mean. |
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Just A Little Stitious |
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Posts: 14563 (11/06/2009 6:44 PM) |
I don't think it's mean. I don't want to spend every single second of my life with ANY one person.
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