For me, I just...don't. Ever since I was little, I never wanted them. I never babysat as a kid (which, most of my friends babysat ALL the time), and the
few times I did, I didn't enjoy it. In addition, I don't have a lot of free time. I work weird hours -- mostly nights -- and what free time I DO
have, I value very much, and don't want to be spending it taking care of and chasing after kids. Also, the whole pregnancy + birthing process scares me,
quite frankly. It sounds gross, painful, and stressful. I don't have a whole lot of patience, so I'm afraid I'd be a mean, crabby mom.
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Posts: 15430 (11/07/2009 5:29 AM) |
I don't have kids. I am in my 30s and not in a relationship, but I have no maternal clock.
For me, having kids always meant being able to take care of them. I cannot afford to have kids. Therefore in my head, I should not have kids right now. When I do get into a relationship, if my boyfriend wants a child, I would only consider it if we get married AND can afford it. |
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Posts: 363 (11/07/2009 5:30 AM) |
I don't want kids just because I don't want to be pregnant and do the whole birthing thing. I like kids though, and think I will be a great mom. If an
accident happens, fine, but I don't think I would ever try to get pregnant. 1 kid would be enough for me.
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Posts: 16053 (11/07/2009 5:39 AM) |
cryinblue wrote:Same for me. We have enough money...we pay the bills and have money left over for savings and a little fun on the side. But, kids are a huge financial responsibility (among many other things) and I don't think we'd be able to support children, really. |
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Posts: 35337 (11/07/2009 5:56 AM) |
I don't want kids right now because I can't imagine myself giving up certain things and becoming selfless the way I think you have to be in order to
raise kids. When I'm older, we'll see. I'm also really scared of being pregnant and being a crappy mom.
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Posts: 15431 (11/07/2009 5:57 AM) |
I think people forget that. Kids are HUGE. A huge mental and financial responsibility. I think my parents just squeezed by in being able to afford my brother
and myself. Seeing them struggle with us, made me rethink everything.
While we had a great childhood, I didn't get the education I wanted because money went to my brother. When he went to college, my mom worked as a maid and work in paying half the bills. I know we have hard working values instilled in us now, but to have kids, I think both my brother and I would want to give them more. |
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Posts: 16054 (11/07/2009 6:04 AM) |
cryinblue wrote:I can relate. As kids, growing up, we wore hand-me-down clothing, and got new shoes from Payless. We were like the last family to get a Nintendo (  ) and I don't ever remember my parents driving nice cars. Education is a non-point, because I paid for my own. But yeah...I hear what you're
saying. Kids ARE huge. I just don't want to have to deal with that.
I grow tired of people saying "Ohhh, but you're young yet! You'll change your mind!" Uhh no. No I won't. I'm old enough to know what I want, and I do not want kids. |
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Posts: 4216 (11/07/2009 6:09 AM) |
I'm 29 and I know I will never have kids.
I have never been maternal. I was never the type of kid to pick out baby names or imagine their wedding. I don't have that in me. When I see a baby, I don't "melt" or ask the mother to hold it. I feel nothing when I see a kid. Plus, I'm selfish. I like my life. I like being able to sleep 12 hours a night if I want to. I like being able to spend my money on whatever I want. I like being able to walk around naked, fuck my boyfriend whenever.  No way could I put a child 1st, which is what parents do.
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Posts: 15432 (11/07/2009 6:40 AM) |
See I have a name picked out for a daughter, but maybe my brother will use it for his kids if he ever has any.
I just know that I am OK with never having kids. If I meet someone who wants kids, I would definitely consider it, but i would never do it because my clock is ticking. |
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I am going to be 27 and I absolutely do not want children. I mean, I imagine that might change if I meet the right person and get married. But as it
stands right now, I don't want any. I have very little patience, if any, and I like my me/alone time. I also get annoyed or angry easily, and I
don't think throwing the kid out the front door would be good?
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Posts: 10214 (11/07/2009 7:25 AM) |
I don't like kids and am way too selfish.
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Posts: 34492 (11/07/2009 7:28 AM) |
There are too many issues in my family depression/illness don't want to risk passing it on
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Posts: 1369 (11/07/2009 7:47 AM) |
I dont know if i will never want kids, but i dont right now.. its too much responsibility, I like to be able to do what I want with my free time, spend my
money on me, etc
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Posts: 4184 (11/07/2009 8:09 AM) |
I don't want kids because I hate them. They are dirty, smelly, obnoxious, annoying, useless, selfish little brats- well not all of them, but most seem to
be.
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Posts: 32220 (11/07/2009 8:30 AM) Chris Fanatic '03 |
SweetCherry69 wrote: Kids reflect their parents. Those are obnoxious parents!
I already have 2 kids but I respect other people who choose to wait. I wouldn't give my life up, but sometimes when you see your friends without kids going out and having fun at the drop of a dime, you get a little envious. |
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Posts: 4186 (11/07/2009 8:35 AM) |
chocolate covered raisins wrote: That is one thing I love- being able to do what I want, when I want and I don't have to revolve my life around kids. I have a few good friends that have kids and it sucks making plans with them because it's this huge process they have to go through to find out whether they can make plans or not. |
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Posts: 327 (11/07/2009 11:24 AM) |
I'm 27 and don't want kids, nor do I see myself wanting any in the future. I'm not ruling it out completely, but I don't see my feelings
changing, because they haven't thus far.
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Posts: 54158 (11/07/2009 11:28 AM) |
I want a kid now, but I'm gonna explain why I didn't before. I won't tell you why I changed my mind.
I changed my mind a few years ago. Basically I just didn't care and didn't see the point. It seemed like too much trouble and too emotional for me. I didn't want to have to worry about a child, and frankly, I don't like most kids.
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Posts: 39256 (11/07/2009 11:32 AM) Best Screenname '03 |
I never wanted kids to begin with, but having my step brother come into my life definitely cemented that. I think living with him would make anyone not want to
procreate.
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Posts: 4898 (11/07/2009 11:40 AM) |
I'm undecided, but am leaning toward no. I travel a lot, and have a great career, and I just don't know that I'm willing to give that up right now.
That, and I've worked really hard to lose weight and I don't want to gain any back.
There's always a lot of kids around me, and I love that. Ideally, I would adopt, but the prices are insane. I guess what it comes down to is, my life is amazing as is, and I don't want to change it. |
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Posts: 17944 (11/07/2009 11:49 AM) |
If I have kids, I'll screw them up and they'll have all sorts of issues.
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