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Please share your first few weeks after baby stories!
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Posts: 1101 (11/18/2009 4:32 PM) |
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coboardgirl |
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Posts: 7931 (11/18/2009 4:35 PM) |
Sillythinglove - I know one thing for sure, which is that my son definitely does not sleep through the night and he's 11.5 months, however I can't
speak for other parents. Some parents I know say that their kid DID sleep through the night without any intervention from the parents, and without any issues.
Who am I to say that they are wrong or their kids are wrong?
As for other parents who work a 40 hour work week, and are getting 4 (or fewer) hours of sleep a night, who am I to tell them that they are wrong to do what they need to do to get that sleep and keep their sanity? Sure, letting a baby cry it out may not be the optimal solution, but it may be the best one for their personal situation. I will add that my husband and I never did let our son "cry it out" because we personally do not believe in it, but I can definitely say we were tempted to, and I do not judge any parent who is hanging by a thread and gives it a shot. |
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 LauraN1234 |
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Posts: 4754 (11/18/2009 4:39 PM) |
Yeah I would NEVER leave a baby under like 6 months to just cry and cry until they fall asleep. In fact, I am studying this topic right now in my Human
Lifespan and Development class.
Infants whose mothers respond wuickly when they cried at 3 months of age cried less later in the first year of life Also, swaddling is the best thing you can do to calm a baby. |
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LauraN1234 |
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Posts: 4755 (11/18/2009 4:42 PM) |
coboardgirl wrote: Meh. I disagree. I worked 40 hours and went back to school when my son was 5 weeks, doesn't mean I am going to let myself be a half-assed parent. |
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sillythinglove |
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Posts: 299 (11/18/2009 4:43 PM) |
I'm not judging I'm just sharing the things I've learned
A year ago hearing about thins kind of situation would lift my eyebrow at most, but now I am a mother and I know better The fact that lots of parent do this doesn't make it ok... just imagine being a few weeks old and feeling abandoned. Sorry for giving the impression I'm pushing something on you people but if the parent is hanging by a thread.. imagine what is in the head of a tiny human crying and being ignored... But anyway.. our parents did it and we're fine right? LauraN1234, why is it ok after 6 mo? |
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LauraN1234 |
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Posts: 4756 (11/18/2009 4:45 PM) |
sillythinglove wrote:I'm not saying it is, but like a 3 month old? Never, ever ever! I don't know what I said 6 months 
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coboardgirl |
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Posts: 7932 (11/18/2009 5:15 PM) |
LauraN1234 wrote:That's fine - It doesn't bother me, as I said, I never let my kid cry it out either, but I don't think it makes a parent a "half-assed parent" if they did because I don't know under what circumstances it was done. And 3 months and even 6 months seems a little young to me to let a baby cry it out, but again, I am not going to tell someone they're a "half assed parent" because they do. Annnyhow, I don't really want this to turn into a debate about how to parent and what parenting style is best - especially since I don't even personally agree with the Ferber method!
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chocolate covered raisins |
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Posts: 32358 (11/18/2009 5:18 PM) Chris Fanatic '03 |
It was a lot easier with my second one because I knew what to expect. Still exhausted as hell, but the anxiety wasn't half as bad.
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Posts: 6547 (11/18/2009 5:23 PM) |
Do you have any relatives that can take the other child for like a week? When I had my second child my in laws took the older child to disney world for a week.
I did not want them to at first because I didnt want the other child to think I had this new baby and now I am sending her away, but it really worked out for
the best. I had c sections so my husband took the week off a work, but the baby did not sleep at all and we were up all night with her, so I have no idea how I
would have been alert enough to take care of the older child had she not went on vacation. If you have any other questions you can message me. Mine were 15 and
a half months a part, now they are 5 and 6.
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