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TeenyL02	I feel like such a bad sister.	Lead	[-]
Posts: 13084 (11/21/2009 10:46 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Because my sister is driving me insane. She started a new job where she's on call for one week out of the month. Well, she was to be within 45 mins driving distance from her work. My parents place (where she lives) is over a hr and mine is 30 mins so she's been staying at mine on an air mattress in my room. I can't put her out in the living room cause I don't want her to wake my roommate up when she gets a call. I have to wait around for her..and any plans I make get shoved out the window because I have to be around for her. My room is a mess. She's got all this all over the kitchen. I feel so put out but my mom keeps telling me that I need to deal cause it's family. Next week, I'm going out of town for a wedding..and then I get my room back for one weekend. The following weekend this starts all over again. She's supposed to be saving money to move out in Feb so she's closer to work but I saw her bank statement yesterday and she has $3 in her account. Ugh. I'm so frustrated and I feel like I'm just being a brat at this point. But seriously..this is why I fucking moved out in the first place.
Mistress Darcy		#1	[-]
Posts: 12586 (11/21/2009 10:48 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Why do you have to wait around for her or cancel your plans?
TeenyL02		#2	[-]
Posts: 13085 (11/21/2009 10:50 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Because she doesn't have a key, and I can't give her one cause she's not on the lease.
GrungeChild		#3	[-]
Posts: 18163 (11/21/2009 10:56 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	You're not the bad sister; she is for taking advantage of your familial relationship and using it to her advantage. If there was an agreement between all of you (you, her and your mom or parents) that she was suppose to save money with the intention to move out soon, then I would say something. Hopefully she's putting money into a savings account.
JulieAnne20		#4	[-]
Posts: 38051 (11/21/2009 10:59 AM) Best Debater '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	It's not really your job to babysit her, or provide her a place to stay, though.
KellySD		#5	[-]
Posts: 1915 (11/21/2009 11:02 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	JulieAnne20 wrote: It's not really your job to babysit her, or provide her a place to stay, though. She really needs to have her own place. Have her find some roommates, just like you did.
GrungeChild		#6	[-]
Posts: 18164 (11/21/2009 11:04 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	By the way, how does your roommate feel? If I was your roommate at some point I'm going to be pissed that my apartment went from a double to a triple. I might have agreed but that gets old fast.
TeenyL02		#7	[-]
Posts: 13086 (11/21/2009 11:11 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	My roommate is fine with it. But, I'm already getting sick of it. My sister now just told me that it could be MAY before she moves out. She's explaining how she's going to save up..and there's no way she's gonna be ready by then. This seriously pisses me off. She's supposed to be moving in with a friend but she keeps bitching that the friends wants to move to an area thats 20 mins away which seriously is not that bad at all. I thought she was staying through the weekend..and it's till Tuesday. I can't do 5 months of this bs.
JulieAnne20		#8	[-]
Posts: 38054 (11/21/2009 11:12 AM) Best Debater '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	TeenyL02 wrote: My roommate is fine with it. But, I'm already getting sick of it. My sister now just told me that it could be MAY before she moves out. She's explaining how she's going to save up..and there's no way she's gonna be ready by then. This seriously pisses me off. She's supposed to be moving in with a friend but she keeps bitching that the friends wants to move to an area thats 20 mins away which seriously is not that bad at all. I thought she was staying through the weekend..and it's till Tuesday. I can't do 5 months of this bs. So tell your sister it's not okay. It's not up to your sister to decide how long she's going to live with you. It's up to you. You have to stick up for yourself, or you've got nobody else to blame. Don't let her run over you.
GrungeChild		#9	[-]
Posts: 18166 (11/21/2009 11:20 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	JulieAnne20 wrote: TeenyL02 wrote: My roommate is fine with it. But, I'm already getting sick of it. My sister now just told me that it could be MAY before she moves out. She's explaining how she's going to save up..and there's no way she's gonna be ready by then. This seriously pisses me off. She's supposed to be moving in with a friend but she keeps bitching that the friends wants to move to an area thats 20 mins away which seriously is not that bad at all. I thought she was staying through the weekend..and it's till Tuesday. I can't do 5 months of this bs. So tell your sister it's not okay. It's not up to your sister to decide how long she's going to live with you. It's up to you. You have to stick up for yourself, or you've got nobody else to blame. Don't let her run over you. I agree. Tell her absolutely not. Let her bitch, pout, throw a temper tantrum, but also remind her that she's in YOUR house. By the way, she says May now, but what happens when that comes along? Will it get extended to October? She might have the intention of saving but thinks the deadline is so far away that splurging here and there won't hurt her. And we're back to square one. I forget if it was mentioned, but is she helping with bills and/or groceries? If you don't want to give her the boot, I think you should at least sit down with her and create a financial plan. If she isn't paying any bills, maybe have her contribute something. Also, pull a minimum of 10% (this can change; I would figure out how much her future rent+ security deposit would be and go from there) from here pay check and put it towards her "move out fund." Edited By: GrungeChild 11/21/2009 11:35 AM. Edited 2 times.
bluegrass60062		#10	[-]
Posts: 17676 (11/21/2009 11:32 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	yike. sounds like not being able to give her a key is the last straw - it's bad enough to share your space, but to not go and come as you please? ew. Instead of letting her say February, May, or October, maybe you should be the one to tell HER when it will end. If she's not ready in May, tough cookies. It might change her savings plan if she know she'll have no option. You could also offer to hold her savings for her, so you know it's actually growing.
LoveHeartKiss		#11	[-]
Posts: 860 (11/21/2009 11:37 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	You can't give someone a key if they're not on the lease? I never heard of the before.
JulieAnne20		#12	[-]
Posts: 38058 (11/21/2009 11:40 AM) Best Debater '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	LoveHeartKiss wrote: You can't give someone a key if they're not on the lease? I never heard of the before. Liability.
TeenyL02		#13	[-]
Posts: 13087 (11/21/2009 1:24 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	JulieAnne20 wrote: LoveHeartKiss wrote: You can't give someone a key if they're not on the lease? I never heard of the before. Liability. Exactly. I'm hoping my plans pan out for tonight so I can get out of the apartment cause she has an on call thing at midnight so she has to leave here at 11pm. I'm supposed to go over this guys house to watch a movie..but he sent a text earlier that he was hungover so I might try to bribe him with pizza from his favorite place.

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I feel like such a bad sister.

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