I love the name.
I know I'm going to regret this but I have to...(TMI?)
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BlackStilettos |
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Posts: 28237 (11/22/2009 8:25 AM) JJB Fashionista '09
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I have absolutely no advice, but congrats!
I love the name.
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Sweetie1384 |
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Posts: 16077 (11/22/2009 8:58 AM) |
Congrats Rose
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chocolate covered raisins |
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Posts: 32372 (11/22/2009 9:04 AM) Chris Fanatic '03 |
I think what you are going through is normal. I had a similar problem with my two kids. When I had my son, he would not latch on for anything. And when he did,
he was still hungry. I felt like I didn't make enough milk for him to be satisfied. I ended up giving him formula in between breast milk and eventually
stuck with formula because I never made that much milk.
With my daughter before I even woke up from the csection my family and the nurses had already gave her the bottle. My breast NEVER got milk and it was like I was never pregnant. I didn't feel as bad this time because I realized it was just my body. Come to find out my daughter had to drink special formula, and with her GERD she wouldn't have been able to handle breast milk anyway. So to me it was a blessing because I didn't have to go through cabbage and leakage this time around. My daughter didn't eat well her first month either. It took 3 months for her to be diagnosed lactose intolerant with GERD. Soon as we got a formula her system could handle, she started feeding like a champ and gained a lot of weight. All in all I think you and your baby are completely fine. As long as when she does eat she keeps it down, doesn't get too fussy or gassy, and seems satisfied, than she is fine. She is not used to eating every 3 hours, so it's going to take her some time to get used to life outside the womb. Congrats on the new baby! |
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Mrs Right Now |
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Posts: 29295 (11/22/2009 9:10 AM) |
I'm sure you will get things figured out with the consultant. Remind yourself if you do need to use that bottle right now it is your milk you are
giving her.
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Copy323 |
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Posts: 13380 (11/22/2009 9:29 AM) |
Congrats on your baby girl! I love her name!
I hope the consultant can help a bit! Best of luck!
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JulieAnne20 |
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Posts: 38063 (11/22/2009 9:36 AM) Best Debater '09
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Congratulations. I know it's hard. I was only able to nurse my 1st child for a month, and I couldn't nurse my 2nd child at all (because of my own
health problems). I felt guilty, even though I knew it's what needed to be done, and I knew I couldn't help it.
If she does move full-time to formula, you might consider lactose-free formula. My son spit up a lot, and we switched to lactose-free formula, and it was much better. That's what he ended up needing. |
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venus9499 |
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Posts: 4373 (11/22/2009 9:55 AM) |
Congratulations on the new baby!
My only suggestions are when you need to supplement the breastfeeding, give her breastmilk/formula using a dropper rather than a bottle so she learns to suck from the breast, not the bottle. Also every time you feed her not from the breast, pump for 10 minutes. Even if you don't get any milk from the pump, it will be sending the signal to your body to produce more milk so that when her latch gets stronger, you'll have enough milk to feed her. It is totally normal to not get as much milk from pumping so don't worry about the amount you pump! |
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Posts: 2351 (11/22/2009 11:16 AM) |
venus9499 wrote: Great advice. I was ready to quit at the 2 week mark, thankfully I continued and just supplemented when needed. The LC should be able to help you a bunch, hun! My baby kept the same kind of schedule yours is. My mom helped me one day to keep him awake as long as possible to change his schedule around. It worked! Congrats!! ETA: Do you belong to any online mommy boards? That is a great support system for you, especially with a newborn.
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PeachesNCream21 |
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Posts: 5731 (11/22/2009 11:43 AM) |
I couldn't breastfeed either..he wasn't latching right and I was all cut up. I started pumping. By the time I healed, he wouldn't take to the
breast because he was use to the bottle. I ended up pumping but eventually had to start supplementing because I wasn't pumping enough to keep up. Please
don't feel it's your fault. If you continue to feel this way, see your doc. Could be the baby blues...your hormones are crazy right now!
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Alex the Goob |
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Posts: 54528 (11/22/2009 11:49 AM) |
Good luck honey, things will get better and you will feel better eventually.
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helenstl |
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Posts: 3545 (11/22/2009 11:55 AM) |
I remember you, you have Noah yes? he must be huge now! I haven't read your post but it has been a while since I have seen you post and I had no idea you
were having another baby :-)
So congrats! |
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Posts: 17693 (11/22/2009 12:17 PM) |
aw, congrats.
I hope you're feeling better when you come back.
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DunderMifflinInc |
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Posts: 13684 (11/22/2009 12:19 PM) Best SN '09
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I don't have any advice, but congrats on your new addition!
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FallenAngelFound |
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Posts: 2099 (11/22/2009 12:29 PM) |
I know you want to breastfeed, but you can't justify your child missing meals for it.
The most important thing is your daughter gets the nutrition she needs. Saying it's only a day or two doesn't make it ok. My suggestion would be to pump breastmilk and if she will only take a bottle, give her your breastmilk by bottle. I know you're craving the breastfeeding bond, but as mothers, we have to do what's best for our babies, not what makes us feel best. She's been losing weight and is having issues with breastfeeding, so you need to address that head on. Your breastmilk is the best thing for her, but if she won't take the breast, then supplement with breastmilk in a bottle. THEN, speak with the lactation consultant on Monday and have her help you formulate a plan to integrate the breast back into feedings. I don't agree with parents or caregivers who want to withhold feedings unless/until the infant does it the way they want to. We are the adults. We need to conform to what works for the infant. There may be an issue you haven't considered, and you're withholding nutrition from your baby daughter because she can't take the breast! Just doesn't make sense to me. |
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Posts: 39217 (11/22/2009 1:21 PM) Friendliest JJBer '07 |
BrunetteBella wrote:How did you get/keep him awake? And how old was he at the time. She's a week today and I've tried EVERYTHING to wake her up during that time, tickling her, kind of digging my finger into her ribs (not digging exactly...just trying to irritate her), bouncing her up and down a little, blowing on her head/cheeks, stripping her down to a diaper, the cold wash cloth on her back, etc. The most response I really get is some cringing and squirming. If I do get her to wake up she literally passes out as soon as she gets to the breast. I do go to a mommy board but they don't get much traffic over the weekend and even less in the middle of the night. I knew JJB usually has pretty steady traffic at least until earlier in the morning so it was the only place I could think to cry to last night. FallenAngelFound, the only feeding being "withheld" from her is the one she's sleeping through and I can't get her to take without literally forcing a bottle into her mouth. I'm not going to let her go hungry. We were supplementing formula with syringes in the hospital because she was so hungry and my milk hadn't come in yet. The colostrum wasn't enough for her. I don't have any syringes here (I need to figure out where I can get some) and I'm not sure how that would go because she's eating much more now. (We were giving at most 1/2 ounce when supplementing.) Anyway, thanks everybody. She's eaten a few times since I posted (four, I think). Sometimes it takes her a while to get on, once she seemed to get on quite easily but I had to reuse the breast I used last instead of alternating. She's now in that time period where she sleeps for hours. I'm about to go try to wake her up but I'm not expecting much success. It's been about three hours now since she last ate, though so I need to try to get her to take more. Thanks again! |
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Posts: 13148 (11/22/2009 1:34 PM) |
congratulations! I don't have a kid so I have no tips. But, you should update your myspace with pics because I want to see!
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venus9499 |
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Posts: 4374 (11/22/2009 2:03 PM) |
I don't have any syringes here (I need to figure out where I can get some) and I'm not sure how that would go because she's eating much more now. (We were giving at most 1/2 ounce when supplementing.) You can get a medicine dropper from a baby first aid kit. You could also use the dropper that comes with infant vitamins or tylenol. We did this for a few days when my son was about 6 months old because he had fluid in his ears and he wouldn't suck on anything - breast or bottle - because it was painful. So you would probably be able to get enough in to feed a newborn. If you put her on the breast very frequently, that will also help her learn to latch and to increase your milk supply. It is super frustrating, I know, but if you do want to breastfeed your daughter, you can make it happen without sacrificing her health. |
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Batoutofheck |
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Posts: 14983 (11/22/2009 2:04 PM) |
I like the name Allison. It's nice and classic.
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SandBeneathMyToes |
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Posts: 8283 (11/22/2009 2:05 PM) |
I don't have any advice, but congrats!!
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Mrs Right Now |
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Posts: 29299 (11/22/2009 2:38 PM) |
Have you tried waking her up with sucking on the bottle then taking it away to try and wake her? Like how you were saying doing things to irritate her? That
might be enough to piss her off to get her out of her little slumber and on the breast.
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I'm sure you will get things figured out with the consultant. Remind yourself if you do need to use that bottle right now it is your milk you are
giving her.

