AngelsTearDrop wrote:Sorry if it sounded creepy that I remembered-I just remember them being posted a few times and they were unique!
Mistress Darcy wrote:
I am sorryWere you the one that had the super cute kinda gothic prom pictures? I have a similar situation except I told my boyfriend from the beginning what the issue was. I was super skinny when I met him and he was extremely physically attracted to me. Then I gained some weight and am really, really self-conscious about it. He still acts like he was does around me (meaning, he still acts really, really attracted to me) but it is hard for me to accept that he could be just as attracted to me as ever.
I know this probably may not be what you want to hear, but is it possible that something else is going on? It just seems strange he would break off a nearly five year relationship over basically a misunderstanding. Like, maybe he is having weird commitment issues? (Sometimes guys panic when it gets to a certain point in a relationship). Either way, hopefully you will grow as a person from this and maybe you will eventually find your way back to him. Of course, you will be fine either way though.
Yeah, that was probably me. We've been together since high school (I'm 21 now.. he's turning 21 Monday which is another thing for me to cry about.. missing his birthday)
I don't think anything else is going on. I asked him if there was someone else and he said no and I really do believe him. I know how he is and I know how much he's been beating himself up over the whole thing. And while it was a misunderstanding, like I said, it's something that's been going on for a long time and he was really beating himself up over it. I never knew the way he felt until he was on the end of his rope, though. If he would've come to me at the times where I did something to make him feel that way, maybe it would've eventually made me tell him what was going on. He's a sensitive guy, so I know how much I hurt him and I know how hard it was for him to break up with me, so I really don't think there was anything else going on.
I just keep praying that he'll see it was all just a big mistake and that I never meant for it to get that far, and if he would've let me in on just how much it was hurting him, I would've done something.
I doubt he has another chick, but I guess it just seems weird to me that basically a misunderstanding and a few hurt feelings would lead him to throw out a nearly five year relationship. It just seems abrupt considering he could have said lets work on it. Maybe that is a good sign though and he will come back to you in about five seconds saying he made a mistake? I guess I shouldn't get your hopes up, but I think sometimes people need to lose something in order to realize how much they are losing. I agree with whoever said keep an open mind to him coming back and potentially working on stuff, but don't lock yourself in a room-try to go out with an old friend, hang out with your mom, go jogging, etc.
I know exactly what you mean! My ex decided
to walk away after 8 years together. It's devastating but trust me when I say this, it does get better. It's just going to take time.
I've been with my boyfriend for 6.5
years, and while we certainly have our issues, I just can't imagine breaking up over something like this. Good luck!
Everyone has given great advice. Maybe things will work
out, maybe not. It isn't going to be easy and you aren't going to stop hurting overnight. Do things to make you happy, to believe in yourself again.
Get to know you again. Now, go watch a happy movie.
