DRAMA: Should I tell the "gf" he slept with me?

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SexysBeenBroughten	DRAMA: Should I tell the "gf" he slept with me?	Lead	[-]
Posts: 694 (01/17/2008 11:59 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I had sex several times with a guy who was broken up with his girlfriend. She had a new boyfriend. They had dated for 5 billion years. Suddenly he calls me last night and says we should stop having sex, he isn't that type of person and neither am I. He also reiterated his don't tell people policy. This morning, I get a text from his ex gf, OUT OF THE BLUE, that says hey call me I want to ask you something, I'm not upset at all. I'm guessing they're talking again. I really like him. I don't know what to do: should I call him first ? Should I call her first? Should I protect him? Should I tell her the truth? UGH. HELP.
Imdesired		#1	[-]
Posts: 3801 (01/17/2008 12:00 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	If she asks I'd tell her. Girls need to stick together.
LisaChasez		#2	[-]
Posts: 88080 (01/17/2008 12:01 PM) JC Fanatic '03 JC Fanatic '05 Most Loyal *NSYNC Fan '06 Most Outspoken '07 Most Likely To Reply '08 Most Opinionated '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	WE WERE ON A BREAK!!!!!!!!
elites renee		#3	[-]
Posts: 16033 (01/17/2008 12:01 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I hope you two are friends?
dlistedceleb		#4	[-]
Posts: 9346 (01/17/2008 12:02 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	First of all they were not together when you had sex so if she wants to know what he was doing when they were broken up she needs to talk him. Don't put yourself in the middle of their drama. And if this is the same boy you need to step away from him anyway.
LisaChasez		#5	[-]
Posts: 88081 (01/17/2008 12:02 PM) JC Fanatic '03 JC Fanatic '05 Most Loyal *NSYNC Fan '06 Most Outspoken '07 Most Likely To Reply '08 Most Opinionated '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Nasty. It's his ex girlfriend. What business is it of hers who he sleeps with now?
PhillyMusicChick		#6	[-]
Posts: 45439 (01/17/2008 12:05 PM) JJB Therapist '06 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Do you know her well?
SexysBeenBroughten		#7	[-]
Posts: 695 (01/17/2008 12:05 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	We are not friends, per say. We know each other, and have manyyyy mutual friends. I'd say distant acquaintance. I don't know how she knows. Obviously one of the mutual friends? I'm thinking of calling him and telling him to come clean to me about everything, and quit lying. Then, when I contact her, I'll just tell her to ask him herself. Good plan?
Talise81		#8	[-]
Posts: 6820 (01/17/2008 12:05 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	if you think you have drama now, wait until you talk to her. Leave it as it is, don't answer her, stay out of it.
JulieAnne20		#9	[-]
Posts: 15655 (01/17/2008 12:06 PM) Best Debater '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Is this the same damn guy you post about in every drama post?
cashkennedy		#10	[-]
Posts: 114 (01/17/2008 12:08 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I agree with those who said stay out of it. They weren't together, so YOU didn't do anything wrong. You shouldn't have to deal with HIS problems. If they are talking again, then that's something they will have to work out, you aren't in the relationship. Save yourself the drama!
SexysBeenBroughten		#11	[-]
Posts: 696 (01/17/2008 12:12 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Let's just say, the amount of mutual friends we have is enough that I couldn't just ignore her and the situation. I'm in it, whether I like it or not.
dlistedceleb		#12	[-]
Posts: 9347 (01/17/2008 12:15 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I don't understand why you can't just not call her. I mean if you run into her and she ask you something just tell her you're not commenting on that. If you really wanted to you could ignore her.
Charrm		#13	[-]
Posts: 7893 (01/17/2008 12:19 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	i would just avoid them both. it's none of your business and why bother yourself with extra drama?
jc4me18		#14	[-]
Posts: 11121 (01/17/2008 12:55 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	So wait are they back together now or just talking? Or are they together again and you're still hooking up? I'm confused. Either way I'd say stay out of if you can..let him deal with his issues.
Showmeyoursoul		#15	[-]
Posts: 24427 (01/17/2008 12:55 PM) TMI JJBer '08 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	yes please. And videotape it then post for my amusement
LisaChasez		#16	[-]
Posts: 88084 (01/17/2008 12:56 PM) JC Fanatic '03 JC Fanatic '05 Most Loyal *NSYNC Fan '06 Most Outspoken '07 Most Likely To Reply '08 Most Opinionated '09 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Why do people ask for help or advise when they know they're going to do what they want anyway?
OhManImScrewed		#17	[-]
Posts: 11662 (01/17/2008 1:03 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	I would just call the girl and let her know that you are not getting involved in their issues and that she can talk to him herself. That way you are running away like you did something wrong, but you aren't ratting him out. He's a big boy, he needs to handle his shit on his own.
JellyRoll2		#18	[-]
Posts: 11447 (01/17/2008 1:06 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	But all the text said was that she wanted to ask you something and she wasn't upset? How do you know this is even what she wants to talk about? Granted, it probably is but you don't know. If you ignore her it may spread around to friends and then more people are in your business. I say call her and if she asks, tell her she needs to speak to him about that. She's inquiring about his business so it should be asked of him.
jenhavins		#19	[-]
Posts: 4029 (01/17/2008 1:13 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts	Please, she already knows, she just wants to pick your brain. There is no need to address the situation with her at all. Address it with him and let him take care of it, period. Walk away from this. How old are you people? Why the hell would you protect him? He obviously wants her back, cut off the sex with you, and she's heard stuff from the circle of gossipmongers.
insomniachollie		#20	[-]
Posts: 28769 (01/17/2008 1:13 PM) Best Fan Fic Writer '08 Reply Quote More Recent Posts	In my experience, anybody who feels the need to specify that they're not upset and how angry they won't get is protesting too much and is usually going to turn around and do the opposite (ie. get angry, get upset and then blame the messenger). You really don't need to involve yourself here at all. Ignore her text, and if she wants to know whether or not he's trustworthy then she better deal with his ass because it's his problem not yours. You haven't done anything wrong, you don't have to explain yourself and you don't have to explain him either. Let him deal with it. Otherwise, you are opening the door through which much subsequent drama will flow.

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