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lykomgimEMO wrote:

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It has nothing to do with people not wanting Dexter with a wife and everything to do with how she turned into a hormonal, whiny monster this season who basically expects Dexter to do everything meanwhile he's the only one who actually works. And on top of that, she has the nerve to call him an absent father? It's like bitch, you're at home doing shit, while Dexter makes the income. And then on top of it, Dexter is also the one doing everything for the baby like staying up ALL night to sing to the kid, making emergency stops for ear medicine, etc. And he's an absent father? GTFO.

I didn't mind Rita during the first season. But as the show progressed, in my opinion, she has turned into a self absorbed, self righteous asshole. Astor also, but that's a different story. But hey, that's just me.

I don't think she was complaining that he was an absent father. When they've had issues it's been for legit reasons. In S2 it was because she thought he was a drug addict and didn't want him in her life or her kids lives if he wasn't in rehab. To me that's a responsible mother's decision. Later that season it was about Lila (who turned out to be a friggin lunatic!) again that was valid.

In S3 when she was pregnant she was hormonal but there weren't any major problems between the two of them. She sort of understood that Dexter was having trouble with the idea of having his own child and she gave him space.

In S4 she's not sitting on her ass all day, she's taking care of 3 kids while he's working and killing people. Yes, he has to sing to the baby. I can think of a hundred new fathers who do the same thing often because the baby is more responsive to the tone in one voice than another. Getting the baby ear infection meds is also a valid request. She probably couldn't leave the other two kids alone to get the medicine so she called her husband to do it.

In the last few eps I don't think Rita was complaining about him being an absent father. I think she always acknowledged that he was good with the kids. But she objected to him lying to her about keeping his apartment and to the larger issue of his difficulty opening up to her and being honest with her. She'd had a bad experience with marriage previously so she probably also has some trust issues. All that makes sense. Once Dexter started to make the effort she was very responsive. She wanted him to go on the camping trip with Cody in tonights ep becuase he'd already committed to it (even if he hadn't realized it) and she didn't want to disappoint him.

As for Astor, she's a 12 year old girl. Snotty bitch tends to fall into the job description!

I think Rita takes flack from fans because she's an anchor on Dexter's activities. She's the mundane. But she's necessary for the tension between the two sides of Dexters life.