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Posts: 17451 (11/17/2009 9:33 PM) |
phone/talk to them on a daily basis? If someone hurts me, I'm not inclined to have a daily chitchat session with them. I avoid their calls until I feel
like I can a) forget it or b) have a civil conversation with them. My mother doesn't seem to be able to grasp this concept.
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Posts: 1711 (11/17/2009 9:37 PM) |
Do they know you are angry with them?
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Posts: 2912 (02/09/1986 3:58 PM) |
I need to be alone when I'm angry/upset to sort out my feelings. If I talk when I'm emotional, I'm going to make absolutely no sense and end up
saying something I regret. My boyfriend always wants to talk immediately after a fight, but I need time.
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Posts: 17458 (11/17/2009 9:46 PM) |
Yes
I'm the same way, FunSized. Not only am I wrong to begin with, I'm also am wrong for wanting time to think about things. I tried to call my brother, because I refuse to let a fight with my parents keep me from interacting with him, and my mother answered. I asked to speak with him (politely), and she gets all angry and says, "Why haven't you answered your phone when I call?! We're both adults here, but you're not acting like one!" Yes, because how she wants to deal with things is the only way to deal with them, and therefore that's the mature method of handling conflicts. |
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